If your, let's say 15yr. old daughter, got pregnant by her 16 yr old BF, what would you do?

Question

Would you demand that she get an abortion?
Suggest adoption?
Tell her to have the baby then raise it like you did her?
Talk to the boy's parents and decide with them?
Why?

This is hypothetical. My daughter is not 15 and not pregnant and I hope and pray that I don't have to deal with this in my future. I lean towards abortion. I know how hard it is to raise a child and I know what she would have to sacrifice in order to be a teen mother.

Answer 1

I would make her get an abortion because she is way too young to make that decision or understand the impact on her life. I think as her mother and an experienced women its my duty to make her make the right choices for her life.

Answer 2

It's kind of like shutting the barn door after the horses have all run away! Where were the parents (you and the boy's) when these teens were having sex?

Oh well, the damage is done now. Better luck next time.

For this situation, you have to do what is best for the kids and the unborn child. Talk to your daughter (something you should have been doing long before now) about the baby and explain to her what it will mean if she keeps the child. Then ask her what she wants to do. Also, impress upon her the importance of completing her education.

Once she tells you what she would like to do, then you should discuss this with both families present. That's you & Dad & Daughter, plus the boy and his Mom & Dad. Explain your daughter's wishes and have an open & honest diaglogue with everyone about this situation. Then it's time for you and your daughter to make a final decision (it's her body and ultimately her decision, not yours -- but do try to be supportive of her and help her).

Answer 3

15 is closer to an adult than a child. As a parent it is hard to accept a teenager becoming pregnant at such an early age. You can not "demand" anything. Ask your daughter what she thinks is best and how does she plan to work this out. Then as a united front approach the boys parents. My sister was pregnant at 15, had her first daughter at sixteen, graduated from high school at 17 (not a GED, a diploma). Now she is 23 with three kids and works in a fast food restaurant. Her life, Her choices...same for your daughter. Do not take over the consequences for her choices. She has to learn to make the right choices!!! Good Luck, God Bless!!!!

Answer 4

I would talk this over with the parents of her boyfriend to see what the possible alternatives are. They are involved with this too and have every right to take part in the decisions that may affect the unborn child's future. I am not one who supports abortion, no matter the reason, so I wouldn't recommend it. It is during this time in your child's life that you have to be with her and show your love for her the most. It is now that she needs your support and care the most. As the parents, you should help those 2 children get on their feet. You could help them by caring for the baby while your daughter and her boyfriend are at school, and by helping them land a job. But remember that the full weight of caring for this child is for those 2 teenagers, not anyone else. Good luck to your daughter's future family!

Answer 5

I would be mad as hell at first, but quickly realize that the she's already pregnant. I don't believe in making your daughter get an abortion. This is cruel to say but having an abortion is like giving them a easy way out. They wanted to have sex, they knew that they could get pregnant, now they have to live with their decision. Of course, when she starts having her period, she will be drilled about having sex and what could happen everytime I get a chance. I don't care if she gets mad at me for bringing up the subject. She will thank me later. Plus, having that talk early will open up to other subjects.

Then, after finding out she's pregnant, a family meeting with the boy's parents is definitely necessary. Because they are young the parents need to be on the same page about raising their grandchild but not over bearing plus they're still in school.

This is what pisses me off.......because they are having a baby it doesn't mean they need to get married. That would make things worse than it already is, They're having a baby then dealing with married life and finishing school makes more stress and they will definitely get divorsed within the year or so.

Answer 6

from a 17...almost 18yrs old girl's perspective now (a little harsh guys don't you think??): i would be there for her. only an idiot wouldn't know that she hasn't already screwd up. it doesn't mean you shouldn't have the "what were you thinking?!?!?" lecture but have it later - the daughter is probably panicking and needs some love. you shouldn't influence her in her decision with the baby...let her decide what to do with the baby and if she decides to keep the baby, help her find a way to support the baby by herself and if the father is willing to cooperate. you can sit them both down and list the options they have, adoption, abortion...etc. etc. you should encourage her to stay in school and at least graduate from high school. the better education the better pay you'll get in the future. hope that helps.

Answer 7

Absolutly don't let her marry him. i got pregnant at 15 and we begged to get married. It destroyed my life. I know this is hard but allowing her to keep the baby will also ruin her life. At 15 nobody is ready to be the head of a family. This baby deserves to live and have parents that know how to care for them. Your daughter may love that baby very much and it will hurt her immensly but it really is the best. And if you decide to raise the baby you can't turn to her and constantly tell her it your child I need a break. You will have to be everything to that baby like you were for her. If I honestly had that done for me i would be almost through with college right now, instead of going from Sonic to KFC everyday just to pay the bills.

Answer 8

I guess the first thing I would do is yell and scream but that wouldn't do any good. Then I like to think I would talk to her and figure out what she is thinking. I would try to give her facts about how her life will be impacted by whatever decision is reached. And by all means bring the fathers parents in to the situation so they and the guy know what is expected of him. I think I would also talk to a lawyer to find out what legal rights the boy has and what responsibilities he has under the law. But most of all let your daughter know that she is still loved, if she is, be sincere and that you are there to help her.

Answer 9

NO I would not demand an abortion! For one that is a terrible thing to put a 16 year old through.
She needs to accept the adult responsibilities for her adult actions and go through with the pregnancy.

I think that her and the boy that got her pregnant should raise that child and accept the adult responsibilities that come with doing adult things.

They made a choice and there should be no easy way out of it

Answer 10

I would talk to her and ask what she wants to do, and then we would go together to talk to the boy's parents. I would not force her to to anything she doesn't want to do. I got pregnant when I was the same age and my parents gave the baby up for adoption, not giving me a choice. I think it was the right thing for me to do, but then I don't know. This was in 1966. I would have like to have gone to a councellor.