I was raped by my neighbour last year. I became pregnant but had it terminated. Did i do the right thing?

Answer 1

Yes. A child needs to be wanted by both parents. You were not given the opportunity to create life by your own decision, so it is your right to reclaim that opportunity for yourself

Answer 2

Only you know if you did the right thing. Morally, I say you may a descision which I wouldn't critize, and I don't think many fair people would. However, it may not have been the best thing to do. It must have a been a very hard descision, and there may not have been a 'right' answer. Only you know wether it would have hurt too much to carry on with the pregnancy. I was raped many years ago, but I didn't get pregnant. While waiting to find out if I was, I thought long and hard about what I would do, and I know that it is not an easy descion to make. I'm glad that I didn't have to make the descision, and I can't really say what I would have done if I had to. I am pretty sure that I would have kept the baby, but I totally understand why you didn't. Rape is a horrendous thing to get over, without the added trouble of a terminated pregnancy. I would strongly recommend conselling if you have not had it, and to talk about what happened. I kept it to myself for 5 years, and made myself ill because of it. If you need to talk, your doctor is always a good place as they can refer you to many people, and will also have the number for Rape Crisis. If you didn't go to the police, and still don't want to, don't worry about the doctors trying to persaude you. In my experience the doctor was understanding and did not pressurise or question me about going to the police. Good luck for the future, I hope you find the help that you need. If you need to talk to someone who has been through something similar, feel free to get in touch.

Answer 3

I'm against abortion, but I believe this is a special circumstance where it should be the right of the woman to decide what she can handle. If she can't handle carrying and giving birth to a rapists child, then I would definitely say that's her right. The best thing to do would've been to carry the child to term, then give it up for adoption. However, it sounds like you really weren't able to handle that emotionally, and I don't blame you. Rape is a terrible thing, and no woman who's been raped should be told what she "should" do if she becomes pregnant as a result. And under no circumstances should a woman feel she has to raise the child, and constantly be reminded of the monster who did such a terrible thing to her.

Answer 4

If if was done because of the reason of rape, then you did not do anything wrong. I highly recommend counseling if you are still greiving. I am very sorry to hear about that, that is a traumatic thing to go through.

Some people choose to keep the child and others choose to terminate the pregnancy.

Rape is a traumatic thing and it is something that is not done by choice. So you did not do anything wrong. Think about the welfare of the child. How would you explain to him /her that they will never get to know their father because they raped you.

I hope that he's behind bars and I hope justice is being served.

Answer 5

I understand your pain, I never got pregnant You have to forgive yourself of your pain and forgive that person I Know that may not seem easy or easy as said and done. The baby was not by choice. The baby needs loving father and mother that will love the baby unconditional And just remember God love you more than anything!!! I know the pain hurts and thinking should have the why question but remember there is one person that Loves you more In this World that is Jesus Christ Our LORD AND SAVIOR That would wash away that Gulit feeling and pain that you have so Look towards heaven and give all your pain to Jesus And he will love you wash you and make you all over again

Answer 6

There is no right or wrong answer. The decision was right for you at the time. You felt then that you could not proceed w/ the pregnancy. You were not at fault for the pregnancy, so don't feel guilty at all. You will recive alot of hate answers, disregard them, go within urself & try to release the whole trauma, & deal w/ it now, so it doesn't affect or interefere in future relationships.

Answer 7

In your mind and heart you know you did the right thing....

How are you coping? Have you seen a counsellor??

What happened to the neighbour? I hope he was put away.

For your sake you need some time to talk through how you feel otherwise you will go nuts. Get to a counsellor, talk to a friend, or talk to me even - YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG.....

Answer 8

Only you can decide that, i think you did the right thing by the sounds of it for the situation. why do you ask? did you have any counceling, if you did you should get some more you obviuously still have some issuses about it if you are asking a question like this.
You are brave xx

Answer 9

You shouldnt ask anyone that question, since it is only you who deals with the consequences and only you who knows if it was right or wrong in your own head. I would have done the same if I were you, but I cant tell you if it was right for you. Bless you, I hope you are getting better and you have people around you to support you.

Answer 10

you probably did the right thing if you are young and are single it would have been really hard to be a mother i would say you did the right thing because you probably would have had troubles by yourself unless you really wanted the baby i'm sorry you got rid of your baby but you did the right thing!!