My byf and i have split up kind of 4 3 weeks. I have found out he has slept with the girl that broke us up two years ago. We split because he found out i had slept with someone else when we were split up for those two years and he couldn't handle it. I was devestated when i found out about them because of the past and i told him to go jump. Today he came round telling me he loved me, he was sorry and he wanted us to be a family. Eventually i gave in and said ok we will give it one last shot. Three hours later he says he doesn't know what he wants, he cant get over the fact i was with someone else and he doesn't know who or what he wants. I feel used, hurt, humiliated and stupid and now dont know what to do. I know iv got to finish it but its killing me to think of him with that bi tch. What do i do?
2006-08-09 07:37:38 · 14 answers · asked by Kerry B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you need to do is think about what you want, not what he wants. Do you think he is really right for you? For him it's apparently ok for him to sleep with someone else but not ok for you to do it while you were split up. He sounds very immature.
I know it's hard to think about him with someone else, but try to put that out of your head while you decide what you want - it can be too easy to fall into the mindset of "I'll not let that b!tch win and have him" and stay with him almost out of a refusal to admit defeat but that's not the answer.
Decide whether you're prepared to accept his behaviour - if you do then will he just carry on messing you about?
Do you think that in the long run you would be happier with or without him? It's really hard getting over someone, but if you don't see it working it's easier to make the break as quickly as possible, stick to your guns and start getting over it more quickly too. Then you stand a chance of meeting someone who will not cause you grief.
2006-08-09 07:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him! He can't have you and he only wants what he can't have. You know why he cheated? Because he was going after girls he supposedly couldn't have. And he probably will always be that way whether it's you or some other girl. You don't need a guy like that in you life. He'll probably try to get back with you over and over again. Stop the cycle. It's hard because you had such strong feeling from him, but you deserve so much better than this. Be strong!
2006-08-09 07:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now staying peers most effective opens extra wounds whenever you see her. How are you intended to recover from her if you happen to see her all the time? Of path she desires to stick peers. She looks like crap for what she did to you. So she will be able to justify it so long as you 2 are peers. Assuring her you are very well. If someday down the avenue you consider you are over her sufficient to be peers, then great. But proper now it is an excessive amount of to assume from your self. You ought to recover from her earlier than you'll be peers along with her. Cut off all touch. She do not must realize this as she is most effective obligated to her boyfriend. Allow your self a few room and someday to heal. Realize even though that point itself may not heal you. What you do along with your time will. So move out and get together. Have a few well instances with the lads. Meet a few ladies and date round. It hurts now, however you'll triumph over this. We all do. I want you the pleasant of good fortune!
2016-08-21 00:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now staying neighbors handiest opens more wounds everytime you see her. How are you alleged to get over her if you see her the entire time? Of direction she desires to remain pals. She feels like crap for what she did to you. So she will justify it as long as you two are buddies. Assuring her you are okay. If someday down the road you suppose you are over her ample to be buddies, then great. But correct now it is an excessive amount of to anticipate from yourself. You have got to get over her earlier than you could be buddies with her. Cut off all contact. She don't have to understand this as she is simplest obligated to her boyfriend. Permit yourself some room and sometime to heal. Understand although that time itself will not heal you. What you do along with your time will. So exit and social gathering. Have some good occasions with the boys. Meet some girls and date round. It hurts now, however you'll overcome this. All of us do. I wish you the high-quality of good fortune!
2016-08-09 10:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by bleser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh! Why do women always think that there is no one else in the world for them except to bloke they are with at the time?
Grow up!!!!
get a life !!!
There are millions of men out there.
Try a few hundred and then make a decision !!!!
Life's for living "SO LIVE THE BLOODY THING" while you can and stop moaning about things that don't matter.
2006-08-09 07:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Harry H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry of what happend to you . But you need to understand that you dont need him . Your too good for him. If he is with that bi tch .He'll do the same to her . Trust me . My ex boyfriend cheated on me with my ex best friend behind my back.It also killed me to whenever I thought about him . But I found someone who's not like that . I'm still with him . But all I can say is that you'll find someone who wont do that to you . And someone who will love you . And just think . Do you want to be with someone who wont do that to you and someone who will love you ? And only you ? Dont worry . Forget him . He's not worth your time .
2006-08-09 07:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F U C K H I M thats wot i say he aint worth it i no were your comin from its hard and it eats away at ya but u can do better it will hurt 4 a while i mean really hurt but u will get over it i promise and he,ll be beggin ya so get rid of him and find somebody new.
2006-08-09 08:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by bigboobs1@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are going to do whatever you want them to do, So my best advice to you is, If you love yourself then you wouldn't put yourself through that kind of pain. And let him go If he can't forgive you or get over then he is not the one. Because if he wants to continue to play games then he needs to find a him a Gameboy and play with and Not your Heart/feelings
2006-08-09 07:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by tay_2_sweet04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go.. and if the past really hurts you imagine when you get togehter then it would be a topic to always argue about.. Just look for someone else...
2006-08-09 07:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get over it. He was not exactly innocent. You did nothing wrong because you were not going out at the time so he needs to deal with it. If not, move on.
2006-08-09 07:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by angelkiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋