2006-08-09 07:32:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once you work out how to tell her get this book:
The seven principles for making marriage work by John M. Gottram
2006-08-09 11:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chris Wogan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is tough because you really are being so vague! I mean we haven't a clue what it is you want changed! Also, we are not aware of whether she is unhappy, too!
I think full out honesty...and I mean fully explaining what is making you tick like a time bomb right now...you decide to talk...and possible even give a heads up, that tomorrow or sometime planned in the near future, you would like to sit down, uninterupted and listen to her feelings as well as voice your own on whatever the problems are, and there is no rules except honesty. Tell heryou want to mend the issues, make changes, and be clear you are not placing blame on her. Blame is a crippler-no matter what the problem is, she is not completely to blame, nor are you...admit truths never told before, talk from the heart...do not allow anger to enter in the conversation- let the chips fall where they may...and in the end decide if it is all still worth it, bottom line do you love her? Does she love you! You can not love who you love, you need to love the ones who love you...deep statement -I know. but if it is ever to work, you must feel the love-to give the love back it is such a whirling dervish, it can spin out of control at any minute...but you can catch it!
2006-08-09 07:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A "man" will tell his wife what's going on in his head and in his heart. A "man" will trust his wife to listen to him and be compassionate at the same time. I know you love her. Now you have to show her and let her know that some things have changed. The truth is always better, so just open up and let her in. You probably will hurt her. But, I assure you, your words won't destroy her. Be the "man" you know you are and talk to her.
2006-08-09 07:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats making you hurt inside,did you cheat or do something so wrong it can't be made right.You should figure out what made you change drastically and explain to her what it is. Don't lie or try to cover things up.Tell the truth because if you tell one lie you will have to tell twenty to cover that one.Just get it all out on the table and hopefully things will work out.
2006-08-09 07:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Timing is everything; don't bring it up at the dinner table. Depending on how serious it is, I find the best time to really talk is at night in bed when you are in bed ready for sleep. If this is so serious that you are ready to walk then you have to face her and tell her what is wrong, and that you are very upset, but maybe don’t mention you are ready to quit just yet, take a vacation just don’t let it build up.
2006-08-09 07:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jalaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting Inside...
"If you always do...
What you've always done...
You will always get....
What you've always gotten"!
I'd recommend a very open conversation with her and explain both of your feelings and the reasoning's behind them. Along with that, what can be done, in working towards a resolution, that makes both of you comfortable and in agreement.
An airplane 1 degree off its flight path at noon today...can be doomed within a short time.
Set your course straight! Have a good flight plan!
Best of luck!
2006-08-09 07:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy, i can work out why he didnt supply you a appropriate call and extensive type. You knew he replaced into married suitable? you besides mght knew he does no longer bypass away his spouse and family members for you suitable? So, what you have mentioned is that your mad as a results of fact he gave you a faux call and job. additionally your mad considering the fact which you needed intercourse to make you experience greater helpful after grandmother died? next, your mad at him as a results of fact he gave you funds to maintain your mouth close? you recognize that $2,000 funds could desire to be considered as blackmail dont you? Do you think of for one minute that your guy is stupid? Do you think of that him being an lawyer that he doesnt have connections to unsavory human beings? Do you think of that he is going to help you injury his attractiveness in his regulation practice as nicely as wreck his family members life and insult him in the previous his son? Does this sound like a individual who's good of their head? chum, you're asking to get harm. Dont enable your jealousy and fantasy get the final of you here. in case you capture this guy and tension him right into a nook that is going to fee him his job his family members and according to threat a million/2 of each and everything he owns as a results of fact of you, nicely you had greater helpful get some scientific coverage rapid. And whilst you're at it get some life coverage as nicely. Dont be stupid. Take the money, as long as a results of fact the numbers are no longer in a row, and use it for a mad trip removed from that city as quickly as you may. bypass to fire Island or to the Keys or someplace far away.
2016-12-11 10:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by foote 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over a nice dinner in a public place with clearly marked exits and easy access to public transportation.
It's not easy but you have to tell her.
2006-08-09 07:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you just typed out... How she handles it is not something you can control so be prepared to follow through and move on with your life.
2006-08-09 07:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be up front and truthful about it. The worst thing you can do is to live a lie.
2006-08-09 08:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋