My ex-husband is 37. When we were married he never thought he ever needed to get a car when he could bum rides from everyone else (which gets real old). He drives a company car, lives with his mother and has tons of people he can turn to for rides. He is complaining and angry because I told him I was not going to continue to bring her when he does nothing to help his situation. He always uses me and others. I had been bringing her to and from and even letting him keep her through Monday. Now, schools about to start and now he needs to grow up and take the responsibility of picking her up by 6pm and bringing her home on Sundays by 6pm. I feel I have helped him long enough.
2006-08-09 07:06:46 · 11 answers · asked by KatheeVonE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This has always worked for him in the past, so he is continuing because he can. It is hard to believe a 37 yr old wouldn't want a vehicle!!! What is wrong with him using the company car to pick up and drop off, I know my husband had a company car and was able to use other than just work. You are very right about him taking responsibility.......you have already helped him far too much and he sounds like a co-dependent personality. It is now up to you to cut that unhealthy hold he has on you. Hope everything goes smoothly, but no matter what you can make your own boundaries.
2006-08-09 07:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you told him the right thing it is his problem and he needs to fix it . Yes you have helped him more then long enough if he really wants the time with the daughter he will come around (why doesn't he have a friend bring him to pick her up he his friends takes him every where else?) Just a thought good luck
2006-08-09 07:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by JEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one obstacle to telling him to jump off a cliff and not being his personal taxi service - your daughter. If they are close and she needs her father, you will be hurting her more than him. My instinct is that he knows this too and thinks he can continue this way forever - almost a sort of blackmail with your daughter in the middle. I'd stop doing it though, you already mentioned he can get other rides. Does your daughter know he has access to other rides? If so, stop accommodating him and let him bug everyone else in his life. It isn't your responsibility and is just another way for him to continue controlling your world though you two are divorced.
2006-08-09 07:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatum, either he gets his own transportation to pick her up and bring her home on time or she will not get her for overnight visitation. Read your divorce decree under visitation and make sure it is his responsibility to pick her up and drop her off, if so then you are well within your rights to not take her over to him. I hope this helps
Just my 2 cents worth
2006-08-09 07:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u answered ur own question.. he needs to grow up.. let him know how his daughter gets to him is his responsibility.. or what u could suggest is that u drop her off and he brings her home or vice versa until he gets a car..
u dont' want her to start missing visits w/her dad because he's being ignorant do u??
2006-08-09 07:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the bum get himself to see her! I know she will want to see her Dad, but you don't need a second child. You've been nice, now it is up to him to be responsible! Does he pay child support? Gas money? Congrats for getting away from him!!! Have a happy life!
2006-08-09 07:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by wishiwereatthebeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
extremely the only element you're able to do is look ahead to the listening to. i've got self belief that as quickly as they locate out he's violating the visitation order they are going to call for he aid you spot her or locate him accountable for violating a courtroom order. as far as him being abusive...you are able to have in no way enable your daughter pick him if that's the case. what i might do is locate somebody to signify your toddler...the courtroom will rent one...and that they are going to then look into the dwelling subject she has along with her father and additionally seek advice from her relating to the dwelling ecosystem. this dad or mum advert lidem, i've got self belief it extremely is termed can then reccomend to the decide no count if or no longer the toddler could proceed to be in his dwelling house.
2016-11-04 05:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by shuey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to see her then he needs to get a ride or something to pick her up or whatever.
2006-08-09 07:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that it is a sacrifice for you to bring your daughter to see her dad, but she needs her dad in her life and unless he i physically hurting her or neglecting her, then you ought to do what it takes to ensure she ha both parents in her world. when you chose to be parent you also chose to put your child first above what you are feeling....really even if he is not the best daddy, if she loves her dad then she really needs him in her life. please do not allow your problems with him to affect that.
2006-08-09 07:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by jen4802051709 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you have get a court order stating the transportation issue- if he cant keep it -then hold him in contempt- then he doesn't get to see her and that one less problem for you- these men really need to start wiping their own as*es, let me tell ya- they get to be such a pain
2006-08-09 07:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋