me and my bf are suffreing from problems.daily we fight and argue.relation is getting horrible day by day.although we love each other but we are hurting each other.we cant stay without one another neither we are able to control aur frustrations. getting demanding day by day.wat should we do?
2006-08-09 06:57:08 · 17 answers · asked by ajnabi k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
baby girl, do you enjoy frustration and misery? for a healthy relationship, you need to consider what is your ideal mate. even though you love him, but i won't get you anywhere. pain is not part of good relationship. i think you need to re-evaluate the relationship.
2006-08-09 07:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your in love. If that's the truth then I say work through it. Don't give up on love if there just arguments. If one of you cheated and that's why your arguing then I would question whether or not you truly love each other. Other than that I don't think you should let love go without a fight. In the end you will see whether you can last through the struggle or maybe your just meant to be friends. I think you probably know in your heart so don't be afraid to listen to it and your gut feeling. Do you think he's worth fighting for? It's a choice only you can make so trust yourself to make the right one.
2006-08-09 07:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem here is not the love... u do love eachother, i'm pretty sure. but the problem is, what is missing in the relationship? where is the respect, the attention, the affection, and the WILL to work on any problem that comes ur way? if you are unsatisfied with his actions, or vice versa, automatically there is conflict, lack of trust, lack of positivity. u are surrounded by the negative and can't get out of it.. remember, not cuz u don't love him, but because something's missing. a relationship is two people, working hard to communicate, and grow, and learn from eachother. if ur not willing to do what is good for the relationship, or if he is not willing, then u are stuck in a rut. u have to nip all the problems in the bud right when it happens; if not, u will have resentment that grows and grows and causes hurt feelings and scars your ability to trust this person. u need someone who takes care of you, makes u happy, positive, healthy. if he can't or is unable, or just doesn't know how, u have to find someone who can. if he's willing to learn, then by all means try ur best w/ him. but if he can't, or is too immature, whatever... u need to let him go and work on what u want in urself, in ur man, and in ur future.
2006-08-09 07:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear..Well it's not un-common for couples to fight. This is a time when you will test each others faith. I would recommend you both find a quiet time where you can talk openly with each other about issues you have in your relationship. You said you both love each other. Try to find a common ground. Both of you will have to make sacrifices. Work on communication and avoid issues that escalate the two way abuse..Good Luck..
Jb
2006-08-09 07:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it is time to decide if you are truely happy with this person. If you think you are.. then you need to put the other person first. Love is an action you show to the other person. Love is giving and serving. Try just giving and serving that person and not thinking about what you get or what you think you deserve. Just do it for a week or two and I think your heart will change and you will be able to see if that is truely the person for you. Don't tell them what you are doing. Maybe they might start showing real love to you too. :)
2006-08-09 07:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by G C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try counsling, or you can take turns talking each one gets 5 minutes without interupttions, then allow the other to speak for five without interuptions. But dont cuss at eachother and stay calm with your voices down so you dont feel threatetend and cut it in on eachoteher.
2006-08-09 07:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is you are doing all that which makes him happy and not you and same with yur bf and forget that unless yu are not happy y can't make others happy
what you need to do is to sit down and think do you see him in yur future can yu guys compromise with each other for long
2006-08-09 07:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can always try counseling if you're both willing, but sometimes people just need to be apart. Maybe it will only be for a few days, a few weeks, or maybe forever.
2006-08-09 07:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by every1lovesamixedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship won't last without God's love in the middle. You need to turn to Him, give your heart to Him, let HIm come in and help you when you want to just say whatever and scream your head off. My hubby and I are true lovers but would not make it if we did have God's love in us.
2006-08-09 07:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of fighting walk away cool down. if u can't talk like adults maybe it's time to go ur own way
2006-08-09 07:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by lil_hempbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋