Shes always gettin in our bussiness and she gets mad when he wants to spend time with just me. his only day off work is sunday so thats our day. and she always gets in a bad mood saturday night and is in that mood all day sunday but then monday morning everythings fine again. how can i talk to him about her behavior without him gettin mad?
2006-08-09 06:57:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to tell your b/f how you feel even if he gets mad because that's his mother and you r his g/f and with anyone family usually comes first. If he doesn't try to talk to his mother about the problem then slowly you will begin to drift away from him and he will know that. it is not easy to talk to someone about their mother but hey giveit a try!!!! I know this is not a great answer but i tried
2006-08-09 07:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Italian Empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you just tell him flat out and her we have to talk and sit them both down and say I cant live this way anymore. Tell her that your not trying to take her son away or get in between them. That you would like to be freinds and you know that your trying to help them with their problems but we need to learn and figure things out on own. The b/f should be right their at the table and then say I need your support in handling problems and ask your mom to give us some space and explain to him about spending time alone. Go to church, take a drive and get lost for hours
2006-08-09 07:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she live with you, first of all? I had a similar experience with my ex- mother in law, but it was way creepier. I think the only ultimate solution is for you guys to get your own place; or at least suggest to him for you two to get a hotel room on Saturday night and spend Sunday away from home.(for the time being)
2006-08-09 07:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that it's time for her to get a place of of her own, or u two leave that place and move some where else.. let him know that her being there is taking a toll on ur relationship.. if he agrees then u's need to come up w/a suggestion and talk to her about it.. u both need ur privacy for all types of things, how u gonna get if ma in law is always there..
let him know how u feel.. if i were u i'd move out and let them live together.. he'll get he idea..
oh is his mom sick or anything cause if so then maybe she should go live w/another relative w/no bf or gf...
2006-08-09 07:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey regardless if he shows it or not he will be upset that your talking about his mother. Believe me, me and my mother in law HATE each other, and when she says something and I say it back my husband just doesn't know what to do with himself. Of course don't keep your mouh closed that will only make the situation worse. Just try and be a sincere as possible.
2006-08-09 07:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to him behind closed doors. Let him know from the get go, that you dont want him to get mad that your intentions are not bad, but that it bothers you what his mom does. communication is ALWAYS the key. :)
Good Luck!
2006-08-09 07:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will not get mad that is normal just talk to him.
2006-08-09 07:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by G-man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her out...tell him you can't handle the old lady...First things I would never let my husbands mom move in or my mom for that matter...worst thing you can do...
2006-08-09 07:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just be upfront with him - he should understand. one very important thing though - she can not be living with you for long...it'll ruin your relationship. you two need privacy.
2006-08-09 07:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by t_perez1199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him if anything he might agree
2006-08-09 07:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Dum Spiro Spero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋