I got married in 1998 when i was just 18 years old! It was short lived but out of this marriage came a beautifull baby girl. At the time i was living in Florida and when we seperated my ex literally went crazy. He broke into my house, filled the tub up with water and waited for me to get home. he waited all weekend, he was going to kill me (drown me)!Dont ask me how cause to this day i dont know how i escaped with my baby in hand but i did. He went to jail for about 1 1/2 years and i moved on with my life. I had sole custody of my daughter
When he got out of jail he took me to court for custody. He was able to see her all summer, the judge didnt even care that previous to that he tried to kill me and her. I have since moved to NC to be away from him, he lives in NJ. Court papers state he is to return daughter to me after summer, we agreed to meet on a sunday at a police station near my house. he showed up Saturday at my house without informing me. i am 6 month spregnant and scared
2006-08-09 06:45:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he calls and curses me out. I am having nightmares that he is going to come back and kill me.
He has refused to pay child support, refused to give me his employer information or his current address. If anything i would never know where to find him,.. but he knows where i am .
Although i know that i am wrong, i have chosen to not let him speak with my daughter until he provides this information to me. I will simply ignore his calls until he leaves me a message with that information.
My question is what is the worse that could happen if i do this? wil i go to jail? remember i am 6 months pregnant. If he shows up at my house can i call the police? can i have him arrested? can i get a restraining order?
I just want to protect myself, nmy 6 year daughter, and my husband.
how do i collect the child support?
2006-08-09 06:46:11 · update #1
You could get a court order, then he'll have no choice but to pay. If your ex gets a court order and still doesn't pay child support, he will be arrested if police catch him. I also suggest getting a restraining order against your ex so he doesn't harm your family. Persist in collecting child support. Don't be afraid. If your ex refuses to pay, you may want to hire a laywer to get the message across to your ex. Child support is important; it's crucial that your ex pays it.
Good luck, and congratulations on your new baby!
2006-08-09 07:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the professional help of a lawyer specializing in child custody or family matters. It seems to me that you want protection, from a restraining order, and want to change his visitation time with your daughter. Maybe the lawyer can reverse the decision on giving him any custody until he pays more child support. Whatever you do, have legal counsel. You don't want to lose your daughter over using her as a pawn. And/or stressing yourself out, because it is not good for the baby.
2006-08-09 06:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to fight it through the courts. He is at fault for not paying child support or informing you of where he works. However, he has legal grounds to take you to court- which could make you lose custody. do all the fighting through the courts. You cant unilaterally decide that he cant see the child.
Furthermore, kids are smart..if you keep her dad from her then she is going to resent you in the future for not allowing her to have a relationship with him.
If youre scared then you call the police. Dont take matters into your own hands.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 06:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Judi V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a lawyer and tell him all this --- no one here has legal advice.
According to your other post you are married and pregnant --- why isn't your husband protecting you from the ex(he's the man and should be protecting you)? Besides you're dealing with your brother-inlaw that has special needs and you're pregnant---- my goodness! If the ex shows up call the police and protect the family!
2006-08-09 07:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you and your daughter had to go through that. I'm not too positive what would happen if you did do that but i don't think it would be jail time. your ex would have to take you back to court for non compliance or something to that effect. As for child support - you can go to the local child support office and file for a child support order (petition) as long as you have his name and social security number they will find him for you.
2006-08-09 06:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by t_perez1199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make him pay only the states attorney general can. You should contact your child support office and let them know asap. They won't investigate or know anything unless you call and say something. If he's harrassing you by calling and coming by unexpectedly call your local police department and ask them what can be done......You need to get the authorities involved obviously to keep you and your family safe....AND FAST!!!!1
2006-08-09 06:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can get a restraining order, and the court can find out where he works and get the support for you, thats what they are there for......all they have to do is check with his parole officer, because he will have to have that info. Let the courts handle it!!!! You just have to stay on top of them to be sure they are working on your case.
2006-08-09 06:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file a ppo(personal protection order).Let the police department know whats going on and that he have been harassing you.If you know his ss# you can call child support let them know that no payments have been received and they will get him.Good luck
2006-08-09 07:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restaining order or protective order.
2006-08-09 06:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋