How many years apart would you say is acceptable in a relationship/marriage? I like someone but we are 13 years apart....would you say its out of the question or age just a number?
2006-08-09 06:34:40 · 28 answers · asked by calvin_0416 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on your age. When you're young it makes a difference. If you're 18 and your partner is 31, yes it will make a difference. My husband and I are 10 years apart, and we've been together, in love, for 14 years. We first met when I was 23 and he was 33, but I was a very mature and responsible 23 year old. I lived on my own since I was 16 and I graduated from high school, went to night school, got a good job with a great company, blah, blah, blah. It really depends on the couple. Are you compatible? Do you have similar interests, values and goals for your futures? I always dated older men, but my personal limit was 10 years.
2006-08-09 06:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Babs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the ages of the people involved. 13 years could be nothing or it could be major. Is one person 20 and the other 33? That could be an issue. Is one person 33 and the other 46? That's no big deal because you're essentially on the same page of life, whereas if one person is 20 and the other 33, the 20 year old probably wants to go out and party and be footloose and fancy free, where the 33 year old has probably been there and done that.
2006-08-09 06:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number of years doesn't necessarily matter, sometimes just the ages themselves make a difference. The 13 year age difference is a lot bigger between a 19 and 32 year-old than it is between a 35 and 48 year old. Maturity levels matte a lot.
2006-08-09 06:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age makes a difference in terms of EXPERIENCE the person has. But the real question is this:
If your older, do you ever question yourself about your maturity level and why someone younger?
If your younger, male or female, are you really looking for someone older because your on the same level or are you looking for another PARENT figure?
If age doesn't make a difference, should we question the teacher who had a sexual relationship with that 16 year old boy? Or how about another teacher who got arrested in New York for having a sexually relationship with a 14 year old girl?
I know one things for sure; I don't care how great a boy or man can be, but if I EVER find out or discover my 14 daughter having sex with a male of ANY AGE, Oxford dictionary will have to redefine the definition GENOCIDE. Because that's what will happen if she's touched.
My daughter is wise and mature, but to have a sexual relationship she's not, in spite of the fact that MTV and the movies tell her otherwise. I was fortunate to have wise parents who told me about sex and relationships long before people were screaming about the idea of having sex education in school (which I question their motives as to why).
Beyond my ranting, I think you need to be someone withing your age range and not have a prize around your arm. Lot's of relationships failed because of the age difference. It's only RARE that they are successes. Mick Jagger paid the price for that and he has more money that anyone on this site. Why didn't he stayed married to that girl who was 20 years younger than him? She said she felt she was missing out and wanted other things she wanted to do.
Do the math.
2006-08-09 06:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's the age that matters. It is the maturity level of the two people and how much they care about and understand the other person. You could be with someone who is the same age and feel like you are living with a child or you could be with someone way younger than you but that thinks like you do. Age doesn't matter
2006-08-09 06:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally 20 years was the acceptable age difference between a man and woman. My husband and I are 13 years apart and it doesn't make the slightest bit of difference
2006-08-09 06:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by Char 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I married a woman that was 10 years younger and I think the age difference played a huge art in our divorce. I was 31, she was 21… so when she became 26, suddenly she starts thinking about the rest of her life and what she always wanted, etc. She wasn’t ready for marriage. She was at a very different place than I. I was ready to settle down, raise a family, think about a house, etc… She was thinking about exploring the world and who she was, etc.
2006-08-09 06:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what the ages are. If your young 20's-30's that's too many years difference. If you're getting toward middle age not a problem. Just make sure no one is a minor.
2006-08-09 06:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number.*
*Age is a number that often determines many things about a person. Their physical fitness, their desire for marriage/children, their habits, their lifestyle, etc.
If you are compatible on the points that are affected by the age difference, then age is just a number. Otherwise, age is everything.
2006-08-09 06:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age. 13 years sounds like a lot at age 20 but not at age 60.
2006-08-09 06:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by toomuchtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋