when I argue with my husband and I disagree honestly about how I feel but I allow him to tell his feelings he gets upset and used to always talk about goign seperate ways. after I fianlly said that would be fine and showed I was ok with it he said I was acting cocky and that I'd end up with some broke jerk etc. I never said anything about moving on with someone else, I just accepted his choice to leave if he wanted to. he knows i'm a good and caring person and gets on me for being so nice to my friends. he gets all my attention, love and support and that's fine, but when I show the same support to my friends (who live in another state now) he has a problem with it. I also noticed he never asks me much about my dating history, he hears about it when we casually talk about dating years. he thinks I'm too nice and that I'll learn no one is out to support and help me when I need it etc. what do you think his issue with me really is?
2006-08-09 06:27:58 · 9 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are a nice, caring person it sounds like, and he just doesn't appreciate you. You did right by telling him it's OK if he leaves. He didn't expect that answer and he's trying to cut you down. Don't take it!!! Respect yourself first, love yourself first, then find someone who loves and respects you. But give hubby first choice, tell him how you feel when he talks to you that way.
2006-08-09 06:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men know if they are with someone they want to be. They don't know if that someone is a good catch.
I think you husband is insecure and enjoys being able to go on a power trip. His words indicate that he believes that he has the power in the relationship. I personally believe that that attitude is very unhealthy. In any male-female relationship, women have ALL the power of choice. He threatens to leave you because he knows you'll take back what you said. Be assertive. Don't. If he doesn't like it, let him go. There are plenty of guys who'd be very happy to take his place.
2006-08-09 13:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes men know they have a good wife or girlfriend BUT only after their woman has left them after years of being taken for granted. Do I sound bitter and twisted? Then your right lol
2006-08-09 14:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a glance, sounds like he's selfish. I know I'm selfish and that is what usually gets me in trouble. I had to love and lose in order to learn how to keep.
Do you want to continue to have a relationship like this? It's both your call. and if you can't find a neutral ground to have a heart to heart, I hope you like drama...
2006-08-09 13:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by John Stamos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think deep down inside they know - but a good rule of thumb to answer your question is the only way you'll really know is if he tells you. every couple has their ups and downs, but he still should express his appreciation for you when given the chance.
2006-08-09 13:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by t_perez1199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the show "Wife Swap?" They are looking for couples.
May change how you both look at everything
2006-08-09 13:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know my wife is good.
2006-08-09 13:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine is not good she's the best!
2006-08-09 13:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Bo-Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES SO WHAT?
2006-08-09 14:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋