in my opinion, i think that parents that give their kids anything they want are idiots?

Question

while i was growing up and even to this day my parents always told me "IF YOU WANT IT BAD ENOUGH YOU WILL GET IT YOURSELF." meaning i worked for alot of my stuff.

these parents that give their kids anything they want are not setting a good example for their kids.

people who get what they want all the time don't appreciate it as much because they know if they break it their mommy or daddy will buy them a new one.

I THINK THAT IS A BUNCH OF BULLSH*T, I MEAN TELL YOU KIDS TO GET A JOB AND BUY IT THEMSELVES

Answer 1

I agree with you. I got a job when I was 10 and I have been buying my school clothes, trips places, my computer, pay for my cellphone bill, and buy everyones christmas presents. I also save my money in a checking account. I am tired of all these people saying that "I hate my parents because they won't buy me what I want." I can't help but think if you are too lazy to get up and earn the money yourself then you don't deserve it. Your parents are there to give you the stuff you need plus a lot of love. You don't have to have brand name clothing. I buy myself good clothes and stuff but I earn the money myself and I am proud of that. We are going to have a lot of people on the welfare system when they don't need to be just because they don't feel like working. The parents need to get them out there in the work field or they are going to be 30 and still living off their parents money in their parents house.

Answer 2

Every parent has a different parenting style. Many with only one child often spoil them. This can lead to adjustment problems as they grow older. Whilst making children fend for themselves, the best may be a merger of the two.

It is my belief that a parent should learn what their child needs, and tell them that if they do a set amount of chores or the like, they can earn the item. If something is 25$ for instance, they should maintain their room's cleanliness for a week. The parent should then 'pay' their child so that the child has the knowledge that they earned it, before they use their own money to buy it.

This will make it an item they bought, and not that mom or dad gave them and will replace.

Just my two cents.

Answer 3

U knw, u don't have 2 blame it ALL on the parents. Some of them can't help it bcuz they r very gullible, and some were raised with absolutely NOTHING. Then, u have some parents who actually r afraid of their children bcuz they r mentally ill and r 2 afraid 2 call the police and tell them about the situation bcuz their children actually beat the parents. So, if u c wat I'm saying, then don't blame it ALL on the parents. But, u r right about how some spoil them but, don't say that evry singl 1 do the same thing. I mean some kids turn out 2 b brats bcuz they r spoiled rotten but maybe all those kids need is really just a real friend who they can count on. U r right but ur not at the same time.

~Fel~ (:-)

Answer 4

I have a feeling you're going to get nothing but agreement on this. I think the age of overly permissive parenting has had a quite observable effect on the world around us. Spoiled people everywhere. Too much entitlement. Let's hope people raising kids now get more disciplined in this regard.

Love your kids. Encourage their creativity. Let them find who they are. But don't forget to remind them that once they are on their own, they will have to answer to all their own needs, and that they have to make a distinction between needs and wants... and that mere wants --well, if they want something enough, a little sweat and toil is the price.

Once they've engaged in actual work, they might suddenly find they don't really need many of the things they thought they did.

Answer 5

I think your parents did a good thing by you, and they set you ahead of all the kids who could just ask and receive, and not learn the value of things, or what was important enough for them to work at. I don't know why parents seem so loathe to give their kids the kind of responsibility that helps them to mature. It is a misled type of love, because it means the kids hit the hard lessons later and are unprepared. Good for you.

Answer 6

I'm with you on the children value things only if they put their own earned money into it.
my kids wanted the sun the moon and the stars....
they did Not receive any of that from me.

we provide the basic needs and taught them the difference between need and want.

They are better prepared for the world than the spoiled pampered ones are.
when it was time for back to school shopping I told them the limits to my budget and how they would have to stretch the money to get all the clothes.
Amazing how fast they decided to go to the goodwill for $4 jeans and spent the money on tops.
If they wanted expensive clothing items I made them pay half.
That made up for the name brand mark up and they took better care of the item because they had money invested in it too.

Answer 7

The end result of this entitlement is a society of dependent "adults." I've seen 50 year old grandparents who still did what their 70+ year old parents told them. When does it end? Sometime the effects last long after the spoiling/controlling parent is dead.

My father let me know he would not be around forever and I would have to be in control of my own life one day. He never said this directly to me but looking back this is the message I received. My father is gone now and the greatest gift he gave me was my independence.

Parents are to give their children roots and wings.

Answer 8

I agree. I think the worst thing a parent can do is buy a son or daughter a new car for their sixteenth birthday. This doesn't help them understand the cost and the responsibility of owning a vehicle at all. My children had to get jobs to pay for their used cars and insurance.

Answer 9

Absolutely. If you work for something yourself, you appreciate it much more. When I bought my first car at age 18, I used money I'd been earning and saving since I was 16. Mom and Dad helped, but I wouldn't have felt the same pride in that car if I hadn't paid for most of it myself.

Answer 10

Not to buy, I mean, If my children want a toy, I wouldn't just buy it for them, they have to do something special to get it, like a bigger chore, or painting their room... or maybe i would pay them for these "bigger chores" and so they will have enough money to buyt the toy. The parents who give everything to their children are making only bad people who will think n the future thatthey will get what they want only raising their finger