My family means everything to me. I have great relationship with them and always have good times together. I'm afraid my relationship with my bf wont work if I have my priorities toward my family. I try to balance things between them but it always seems that I yield more towards my family.
2006-08-09 06:12:09 · 18 answers · asked by Lady_Dreamer 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
if you marry him. he becomes your family with your kids.
your husband and your kids become your priority not your parents and brother and sisters.
Your parents will die one day and your brother and sister will have their own families. then where will you be.
you need to stand by your man and not the family you were born into. you will always still love them and they will always love you.
Your parents did the same thing. it is the normal process
that you wean your self free from your parents family and create your own.
you need to live your life. your adult life
unless this guy is a complete bum and your family warns you against him. put your priorities toward him.
how would you feel if you marry him. and he always goes home to his mommy?
2006-08-09 06:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your bf doesn't have the same priorities that you do. If you are planning on wanting to marry him it will only get worse. You will still need your family around after marriage for holidays or special occasions. If your bf doesn't get along with your family it will create hard times in the future. I am sure you care about this guy but is stress about your family worth hanging on to? Just tell him that you think it won't work out for you two. Be honest and find that fish out there for ya!
2006-08-09 06:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by dutchfam7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really tough when you find yourself having to choose between the people you love the most. In one sense, family is family and they will always be there. In another sense, you cannot live your life for your family and always seek approval from them. This is YOUR future you are talking about. If you have been with the guy for six years, your family should by now realize that you are serious about him. I would sit down with the one family member that you are closer to and has that "place" in the family that others listen to. Let them know your fears and concerns. You should be able to have a healthy balance of family life and your independent life. Good luck sweetie!
2006-08-09 06:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been in the same situation and. All though you love this guy your family will always come first in your life, because you put them first. Same as I do. But its hard to balance things out if your family doesn't approve with who you are dating. But its your choice on how you want to lead your relationship with this man. And your family should let you be your own woman and love you regardless of what you do or how you live your life. You are a grown woman. Live your life.
2006-08-09 06:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Nita C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years and you haven't straightened this out in your head?
What are the reasons they don't get along? If you try to see things from someone else's point of view, then maybe you can understand what they are feeling.
If you are sure that you want to stay with this guy, make sure that he understands how important your family is to you. If they need you, you would be there at the drop of a hat. You say that you try to balance things. Explain this to him. Hopefully, he can agree with your actions. If he sees this as unreasonable, maybe it is time for a new boyfriend.
2006-08-09 06:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Your family should take priority before your boyfriend. But a husband should take priority over your family. It depends on where you're headed.
2006-08-09 06:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know family comes first, but once you're married your spouse an down family come first. So if you're getting serious, as you've said you have to balance.
If you love your boyfriend you will want to be with him and will want to include him in all activities you have with or without your family. If he loves you, he will go to most of them and will want you to join to his and his family.
If your family loves you, they will understand why you spend much time with your boyfriend and viceversa, if your boyfriend loves you he will understand you love your family and why you spend lots of time with them.
Remember when you marry someone, somehow you both get married with each other's relatives, so it'd good they hang out and get related.
The key is balance and to get that you need communication.
I hope that helps. Please let me know how you did it.
2006-08-09 06:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by Armerys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family will always be there for you. give or take a few moments. if he is that important to you he will marry you . then he will be a true member of the family. 6 years is a long time its time for him to drop to one knee and break out the diamond or hit the road.
2006-08-09 06:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by sifustu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you,ve been together for 6 years there's a good chance that this relationship will last
2006-08-09 06:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your boyfriend interested in something your dad likes, my dad loves cars and when i got my boyfreind a job as a mechanic they became fast friends. We were all like one big family after that. He had dinner with us, and my parents wouldnt mind if he spun the night or anything , it was great
2006-08-09 06:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pegasus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋