I split with my hubby and he has moved out, i'm very sad today :(
2006-08-09 06:11:00 · 23 answers · asked by Sarah W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should be over the moon honey
2006-08-09 06:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have many choices...you can sit around and lick your wounds or you can move on with your life. You are the deciding factor. It would be nice to know some info:
1) Are you askiing to validate your feelings ... or
2) Are you seeking help to overcome your situation?
3) Why did you and your husband breakup?
4) Do you hope to get back together?
These are important questions becasue it will determine the answers you get from all of us.
I am truly sorry though that you have lost your marriage. It's not a good time. But one thing I can say it will eventually get better with time. The sooner you move on the shorter that time will be.
Good Luck
2006-08-09 13:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that, but every cloud has a silver lining and though it may not seem like that right now ,you need to stay strong & think only positive thoughts and not to go over the 'if only' & 'why me' thoughts over & over again .....it will only wear you down. Obviously I dont know the circumstances , but sadly so many marriages go this way, but I think that whatever has caused the split you need to stay as harmonious as you possibly can with your ex, as who knows what lies round the corner, and many people find it easier to get along apart than they did together & one day you (both ) might feel the need for a bit of comfort that no one else can give so although things haven't worked out dont burn your bridges. & keep ya chin up....Good luck for the future
2006-08-09 13:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any loss is hurtful and it takes time to come to terms with it. Try to be kind to yourself and not go over and over the hurtful facts, it doesn't help the situation at all.you need to survive this, so find some support, you must have friends and family. In time you will move on but until that day comes, try to distract yourself from negative thoughts by focusing on something else when ever you catch yourself mulling over the painful episodes.Most ppl come through this trust me, there is light at the end of the tunnel and you'll see it glow one of these days.
2006-08-09 14:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.. the same thing happened to me recently.. but I moved out... and I am sad quite often.. but it does get better... if you don't have children.. take that as a blessing.. I have a 9 month old baby to take care of by myself.. no more freedom as before... you still have yours... go on a trip.. go out.. enjoy life... you'll find someone else...
2006-08-09 13:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its usual to feel sad about the passing of a relationship even if it was not a good one.Its the sense of loss.
However this feeling will pass and you can look forward to a brighter future,learn from past mistakes and be wiser for your knowledge.
Good luck for the future !
2006-08-09 13:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to continue to ask yourself why you split in the first place. There must have been some major problems and you were dealing with something you didn't like or couldn't stand dealing with. It's hard in the beginning but when you start seeing that you no longer have to deal with abuse, or infidelity, or being married to a man who treats you like crap, you will learn to appreciate your freedom.
2006-08-09 13:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEEN THERE DONE THAT..I WAS DIVORCED LAST OCTOBER.. AFTER 12 YEARS OF MARRIAGE.. BUT BELIEVE IT OR NOT LIFE WILL GO ON. HANG WITH SOME FRIENDS, GO ON A MINI VACATION, GET AWAY FOR A BIT. DO SOME THINGS YOU WERE NOT ABLE TO DO BEFORE. I PROMISE THINGS GET BETTER.. I AM WITH SOMEONE NOW THAT IS AWESOME, WE ARE SO MUCH IN LOVE AND DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER..YOU TOO WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN.. JUST TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF, FRIENDS AND FAMILY RIGHT NOW.. IF YA WANT TO TALK GET AHOLD OF ME.....BECCA
2006-08-09 13:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by motorcyclelovinmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm in the same situation except I'm the husband. It's been two months and I still miss the hell out of her and don't even feeling like doing anything else. I hope we both feel better.
2006-08-09 13:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, spread your hands wide, and enjoy not having to step around him. Sadness is normal, it will pass somewhat; get yourself occupied and it will not sting so much.
2006-08-09 13:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look to the future. You can now find a relationship that really works for you. Your life will get better.
2006-08-09 13:14:45 · answer #11 · answered by Wax Crayon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋