When I was 15, I met a guy during a science conference we were attending. We hit it off and were inseperable for the conference. We lived in neighboring states and exchanged letters, emails and calls for almost 3 years. We decided to get married, but he moved and I never heard from him again. I'm now 22, married and have a baby on the way. I love my husband and we've built ourselves a nice life so far, but I'll never feel for my husband like I've felt for this other man. He emailed me last week and wants to see me when he's in town. I'm not going to see him, but I can't stop thinking about him. I've dreamt about him every night since the email. I haven't told my husband but he knows something is up. How do I get over this other man?
2006-08-09 06:06:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are in love with your own fantasy of what this other guy is and what your relationship was. Your husband and coming baby are real, forget about the other guy. Be mature. You will be a mother soon. No do not meet with this guy. Tell him you are married and happy and MEAN it.
2006-08-09 06:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you...I would go see this guy. If you havent seen him in a while maybe seeing him will give you closure. A final goodbye so you can move on to your husband and baby. I would talk to your husband about this, how your feelings are, and what this guy said to you. Let your husband know that you might want to see him (just as friends) to say goodbye for the last time so you have closure and can move on to be the best wife to your husband. Best of luck and congrats on your baby!
2006-08-09 13:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by iWorkonComputers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, always be grateful to things that we have right now. Think about your baby and your loveable husband. Your husband might be no match to your x-bf, but remember God always give u the best and He have reasons why he chosed your husband for you. Just let your x-bf know that you are happy with your current family. Say positive things about your husband to him. Tell him how much you love this family. that will make him think not to disturb you with bad intensions.
Or maybe you can think about your x-bf's bad behaviour so that you can forget about him a little bit and appreciate more on your husband. let your husband know about it. remain as a friend if you can handle your feelings. If not,don't go further,just avoid it,coz bad things might happen easily than what you expect not to happen.
2006-08-09 13:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the guy you met long ago is not the same guy today.
Hey! And your not the same person either. So stay home. Let him go. Your husband stop you from thinking about him long enough to make the baby. Be Good.
2006-08-09 13:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by jane m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I know how your feeling I have a friend that is going through the same thing as you... shes' married with two kids now. and she has dreams of her ex bf every now and then. and i know its hard for her to stop thinking of this guy (by the way her ex is married too). but you know the best thing you can do is try very hard not to think of him.. and i'll share with you one of my friends mistake.. she thinks of her ex everytime she feels down, or has a little argument with her husband..and thinks "how would things be if i would of stayed with my ex" and girl, dont do this you would just make it harder on yourself! just be happy girl, and know that if his meant to be yours sooner or later he will be! having this in mind i hope you can live happier and not to much in doubt! good luck!
2006-08-09 13:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by explaining to your husband and talking about it with him; other than that, it just takes time and a life well lived.
If you don't tell your husband, it will undermine your marriage and endanger it every time this guy tries to get into your life again.
2006-08-09 13:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy what you have ...and reminisce about what was."The grass IS always greener--as they say--on the other side of the fence."You are thinking of a simpler time in your life...but be happy in the here and now!
Best wishes:)
2006-08-09 13:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r old enough to think.. what has passed, let it be behind u.. be friends.. go out in groups.. include ur husband too..
2006-08-09 13:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by kecik_dws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋