We have 2 young children, ages 4 & 5. Year 2004, I caught her going to JB with a guy. Don't know got sex or not? But they broke off after a while. Year 2005, I caught her on the bed with another guy. Year 2006, she with a guy younger than her, 3 years. This time she(currently now), not like previous times, after I found out and said if she broke off with her little bf, I will still accept her. But she decided to ask for divorce. I know her new relationship won't last, but do you think I should let her go and harm herself? I keep don't let go is because, I care for her and she give me 2 kids and also for the kids not losing their mum. She is very dependant on me and I don't want anything bad to happen to her. Her parents and I know she are at faults and she don't know how to think. But do you think this time I should let her go?
2006-08-09 05:58:41 · 23 answers · asked by Grace is a liar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should definatly let her go....Just because the two of you have children together does not mean you have to be unhappy in your relationship. It is her choice to be a cheater and my personal opinion is that once a cheater always a cheater and I think she has proved that to you.
Let her go and make her own mistakes apperiantly she is unhappy in your marriage or she would not be cheating on you.
Just remember though that you are the best she ever had and eventually she will come crawling back and you need to tell her no that she made her bed and now she needs to lye in it. Good luck to you
2006-08-09 06:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly32976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been able to understand why people in your situation stay? You deserve better then what she is offering you. You both took a vow when you got married and she isn't holding up her end of the bargain. I know that you must love her to put up with all the cheating,as I would have left a long time ago. Move on and file for custody of the children they will not be losing their mum they will just not see her as often.Do you want your children to see how it is between you too and think that it is ok to cheat on their spouses? She needs to grow up and find herself otherwise she will never be faithful to you or anyone. As much as it will hurt let her go, and find someone who will treat you right. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-08-09 13:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by fire_fly0434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically i feel that you should have an answer by now. Do you think you can still trust her after so many times she had been unfaithful to you. It could also be a bad influence to your children during their development. No doubt you care for her but she don't appreciate your effort in any way. It could be a trauma for the children right now but do consider how the child will feel if they find out how their mother behave right now? I think they will feel more hurt and they bear the hatred. So I believe you can made the right decision
2006-08-10 08:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in what way is she dependent on you? She seems very capable in taking care of herself. anyway she is already asking for divorce and doing all those unfaithful things, what more reasons do you need to leave her? i think the kids would do better without a mom like her. If she just stuck to one other guy, perhaps i could still be persuaded that she found someone more suited to her, but obviously she is not being faithful to her boyfriends as well. So she is also a bad influence to your young kids.
2006-08-09 13:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by freddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..Is she..mentally retarded or are you??. Don't try to excuse her behavior, what she is doing to you and your kids is destroying your lives, You don't want that for your children...they deserve better...even if that means to leave without their mom. She has shown no remorse or anything , otherwise she wouldn't be getting involve with someone other that his husband all the time. You sound like a good hearted man....think better....you deserve someone that LOVES YOU, and your children. Move on...I know is easy to say, but put your head up and have some dignity, let her figure out what she wants to do with her life, even if that means seen her struggling financially or whatever, don't let her drag you down with her.
2006-08-09 13:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly this woman and especially your children mean a lot to you. You're in the situation so you know best. Get out your pen and paper and list the PROS and CONS to your children, your wife and yourself of leaving or staying.
One tip though, she's cheated and gotten caught by you more than once so clearly she doen't respect you. Time to honour and respect yourself and your children. Make that list.
2006-08-09 13:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by shugs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your English is realllllllllllly bad, but I guess what you are saying is that you have a wife who has cheated on you many times. You have children, and care for her, but this is getting old. Well, sir, your wife will continue to cheat on you. In your place, I would file for divorce, claim the childlren and let her make her own mistates on her own time.
2006-08-09 13:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes let her go. She must learn some hard lessons about life and you shouldn't stand in her way. She is not capable of being a mature mother and wife. It is not up to you to enable her in her foolish choices and lifestyle. Let her take the consequences for her own actions.
2006-08-09 13:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see you really love her and care for her ....maybe she has a problem you can not cure for her .....so maybe if you love the children you should start to think of takeing care of yourself ....you can get diseases from someone who is careless about sex....who will take care of the children if that happens???also if this does continue it will break your heart and destroy your spirit ...let her go and make a new life for your self
2006-08-09 13:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is wife material. You have caught her several time with other men. It is time for you to move on. If she cheated once, then my reply would be to forgive her and try to work it out. But this is not the case. Good Luck.
2006-08-09 13:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋