a yr ago my boyfriend moved a few hrs away from me he ended up not liking it over there and came back and now he lives 20 mins away. during this whole 1 yr period he has had no job. i tried helping him out because i do have a job. 2 months ago his car got stolen and that was the only thing he had. i have no car so its hard to go see him although its not far i have to work mon-friday.
yesterday he told me about a Gangster help the goverment gives homeless guys money for expenses. i think this is bad since his parents have money they are not rich but they have money. and he is healthy
i was going to help him get a car so he can start working but now he doesnt want my help and it makes me sad because i love him so much i dont know what to do. i know that obviously he doesnt want to do good like he says hes not in a hurry but i want him to go down the right direction and stop looking up to his dumb "gangsters" friends.
let him be or stick there ? HELP!!
2006-08-09 05:58:40 · 4 answers · asked by 3vero6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let him be. This is trouble big time. If he wanted a job he would have had one (even if it was McDonalds). NEVER help someone you are not married to cosign for a car (or pay for a car for them unless you want to give them a gift because that's what it would be).
You cannot save the world or him if he doesn't want help. Let him go.
2006-08-09 06:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all NEVER EVER put your name or get a loan out on a car for another person. Legally if any thing happened to that car, or he did not pay the monthly payment you would be stuck with the bill. If you feel the compelling desire to buy him a car make sure it is paid for, and in his name so you do not get in any trouble for something he may have done. And honey a man that dose not wont a job and wants to live off the state is not a man. I used to go out with those so called "gangstas" and they are NOT worth it. Now I have 2 kids a wonderful man who takes care of me and the children. Maybe you can help him but chances are if he dosen't want it know he isn't gonna want it later. Hope it all works out well for you.
2006-08-09 13:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by need to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on Earth can posess you to love I guy like that? I mean seriously, your in love with a gangster that doesn't have a car, doesn't work, doesn't contribute anything to the common good of life. I bet you buy him stuff all the time huh? Do you ever wake-up in the morning and feel like there is something missing from your life. Well there is,it is your self-respect and probably your stereo cause your useless boyfiend stole it to buy pot with. Come on, you typically are who you hang out with, if you hang out wiith takers then you are a taker, and guess what you are associated witha taker and even worse you are in love with him, so i hope you are prepared to be a giver all your life.
2006-08-09 13:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Papa Dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change anyone. Let him be . It is not your responsibility to raise him. He will do what he wants, when he wants to. Move on with your life and see what happens.
2006-08-09 13:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋