I was wanting to know if anybody Else's wife had died of cancer?

Question

My wife passed around a year ago and i'm having a hard time dealing with everything we were married 15 yrs and she was 21 years older then me. We have 2 sons that are my age and i have 3 wonderful grandchildren, which i try to see everyday which does help, But the time at home alone is the hardest!! If anyone has any suggestions please let me know!! Thanks!!

Answer 1

My dad died of cancer and my mum is the same on her own now, we try to visit her everyday. But anyone who has been in a long relationship finds it difficult. If you want to get out try finding your local support group, or join a social club. getting a new hobby is a way of meeting new people with something in common. Have you had bereavement counselling, sounds like you need it. Its hard to help people who who have no idea where they are. I can't give you any local groups but if you try searching on the net I'm sure you'll find somewhere. Good luck and remember lots of people in the same situation.

Answer 2

No. But I've had family members pass away from that horrible disease. It is difficult. My condolences...
I know it's not easy.
Just remember how she lived. That's more important than how
she died. And the other family member contact - good for you!!
Grandchildren are the best! Home alone! Keep on talking on the
phone, get on computer, keep reaching out. Go out! catch a movie. I go sometimes to the theatre alone! (Preferably a comedy) Keep it light. Hang in there. The Missing never goes
away. Somehow we learn to live with it.

Answer 3

Was hospice involved in your families case? If so, you should be able to attend grief counseling thru them or even speak to someone one on one.

I volunteer for them, and I would be willing to listen if you need to talk.

It is hard, and its not just you, it is for anyone in your situation. Grief is natural. Throwback grief (after a year or more) is normal. You will never forget her, but you will learn to go on.