Does any one else have this problem???

Question

I have just not been in the mood for sex. It is not that i am not attracted to my husband, i just dont want sex. I dont want this to hurt my marraige no more then what it already has. So any advise and please no smart *** answers

Answer 1

you need to go ahead and submit to your husband, but while having sex with him imagine your with the man of your dreams

Answer 2

I get in those moods sometimes, where all I really want is to be close to him, but not have intercourse. I love him just as much, and am still attracted to him, but for whatever reason, my body's just not interested in sex, sometimes for a few days at a time. I think it has to do with hormones at certain times of the month, because there are other times when I can't seem to get enough! Although my husband gets frustrated when he's in the mood and I'm not, I think he realizes that it's not intentional on my part.

Answer 3

First, you need to figure out why. Are you worried about getting pregnant? Has it not been exciting enough? Is the romance lacking? Something has you feeling this way. Granted, not everyone is in the mood all the time, but on occasion, you should want to be close to your spouse and lovemaking is as close as two people can get. It may come down that you need to see a counselor and ask/answer some questions. This is not just for your husbands benefit, but also yours. Don't worry, it will all work out. Good luck!!!!

Answer 4

Is this the first time you haven't wanted sex? If so, then there may be something physical going on. I would recommend going to see your MD. Make sure everything's ok. It may be you're going through some hormonal changes and your Doc can help you with that. Also, you and your husband need to talk about what's going on in your life that could be causing stress, etc... that's affecting your sex drive.

No matter what, don't feel like you're defective or strange. It happens to everyone at different points in their lives and it's perfectly normal. Have patience and confidence that you're doing everything you can to get your sex drive back. Good luck

Answer 5

Have you tried to determine what is stopping you from having the mood for intimacy? Is the relationship with him that bad that is affecting the intimacy? The closeness of the relationship between the two of you plays a key role in stroking intimacy beside the other factors like stress, diet amongst others.

A possible solution would be to either talk things out with him and clear any misgivings, etc and make things known clearly before he starts to get all suspicious and hurt.

If all else fails, see a counsellor.

Answer 6

First you should rule out any physiological possibility. Maybe you have an hormonal imbalance (that's the case for many women in menopause or after having a baby, etc.) that can be easily fixed. Also, some medications (such as anti-depressants) can reduce your sex drive significantly.
If that's not the case, you should start looking into psychological aspects as the reasons, maybe you need some therapy, maybe couples therapy to make some time for yourselves and explore your sensuality and sexuality. maybe they're other reasons that might need psychiatric help.

Answer 7

it happened to me...I was married to a man that was very attractive, beautiful blue eyes,,,well, anyway,,,i just didn't want to have sex with him. We were married, didn't worry at all about becoming pregnant...would have loved that!. But, there were other aspects in our lives that I guess blocked the sex thing. you say you are attracted to your husband...but, do you love him, are you still in love with him. I thought i loved my husband, I did, but not as a wife, and that is why i didn't like having sex with him...it was like having sex with a family member!!..sounds weird but that's the only way to explain it...examine your feelings for him....if that's fine, then see your doctor, some meds can cause that, or a hormone imbalance...just might need vitamines

Answer 8

It could be a number of things. If your taking any medications you may want to consult your physician, or it could be mental. Have you been getting along with your spouse? any unresolved issues? I know when I'm upset the last thing on my mind is sex. Also there are times when we just don't want sex & that's perfectly normal. However, if this persists you should really see someone.

Answer 9

Do you talk about this with your husband ??......because a marriage is more than sex.....and I believe it should be called love ....makeing ....it is something you both enjoy not tolerate or feel obliged like it is in your marriage contract ...what is happening is your going into a new phase of your relationship...you both have changed since the doe eyed kids you were since you married ...it is all a normal part of a deeper relationship

Answer 10

you should talk to someone about this, really because intimacy is a huge part of making a relationship work, it's what brings you and your husband together to share something beautiful and alot of relationships are ending for this very reason. both men and women are losing that sex drive and it could be bill, kids, or just plain stress but you should address it quickly before it gets to a bad place that cannot be recovered.

Answer 11

If you love your husband and you're still attracted to him by all means go see a doctor. There can be so many reasons for lack of libido. Doesn't mean there is something wrong with you that can't be helped, you just need to seek the help.