How can I get child support from my ex husband?

Question

My husband went back to live in Rep of Ireland to avoid paying child support to our four children who live in England. The British child support agency doesn't have any jurisdiction within Eire. He visits the children once a year and brags about his good job, his house he's brought and holidays while we're living hand to mouth. Surely there must be a way around this loop hole for example dead beat dads of Northern Ireland would just move south of the border to avoid child support as would dads from the republic would just move to the north. Please help many thanks to any replies

Answer 1

unless he is going to give you any money, you have no chance at all.
Even if he lived 2 miles away from you, unless he is prepared to give you anything, no CSA or courts will make him, he would just jack his job in.
Best thing is to try and talk to him, and hope for the best

Answer 2

You have my sympathy. It is tough bringing up four children and the least your ex could do would be to help with money.

I don't know anything about the law around this - and maybe this suggestion isn't helpful - but speaking as a half Irish person.....

you could try making him feel guilty....

Is he a Catholic? Most of us Catholics feel guilt about just about anything!!!!

Other than that, I guess that you have asked him straight? And said Please?

I'm wondering what would happen if you moved to Eire too? (I know it's a bit extreme and why should you change your life - but I just had a fantasy about you moving in next door!!

Your situation sounds very unfair. I hope that at least you have a good family and freinds who support you.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I don't know the law in England but can you talk to a lawyer and find out if you can still file for child support anyways and because he will be in default of doing that, (still I don't know the law in England but) may be you can also file something to preventing from leaving England when he comes to visit your kids until he pays all the child support he owes. I know in some countries you can do that.

Answer 5

Speaking from experience... I live in Spain and my now ex husband returned to England - the only way I was going to be able to get maintenance of any form was to do it through the courts. I only have had to bring up one child but I dread to think how difficult it is to bring up four. Perhaps you can arrange to have posters placed around where he lives, telling all, and shame him into maintaining his kids.

Answer 6

you cant.
the only thing you can do is stop him from seeing the kids.
my friends ex-husband moved in with his mistress and stopped working, as he earns no money he does not have to pay child support. She is now in financial difficulty.
this should be a lesson to woman, be sure of a man before you have kids and even then dont piss him off!

Answer 7

You might try a web search for "international child support recovery". Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

sue him in the courts or through CSI

Answer 9

ask his mum to tell him to send money - he'll do as hes told!

Answer 10

you can't