My husband and I have been married for 5 years but have been together for 6 years. He used to be real romantic up until about 2 years ago and now he is just kinda like "Come on woman lets go have sex".ummm no I dont think so, that is just not working for me and then when I tell him I need a little more romance then he says it just because I dont love him. How do I get the point across that he aint gettin any until I get some romance?
2006-08-09 05:00:16 · 7 answers · asked by fire_fly0434 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe I should be more specific I am the one who goes out and works everyday, not him I am the bread winner in the family.I should have dinner waiting on me not the other way around, but I still cook him dinner everynight when I get home.
2006-08-09 06:05:04 · update #1
I have been married for 7 yrs. and I have the same problem he was so romantic when we were first married. Now I feel if I have to tell him what to do..it doesnt mean anything and I might as well do it myself!! The only thing I might suggest is maybe making him a nice romantic dinner for the two of you. Bring up how romantic it is and that this is the kind of stuff you like!
2006-08-09 05:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Becky H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would also like to know, we've been together for 8 years and married for 3. When we were dating he was very romantic. But now forget it. I have tried to be romantic. i am on mat leave right now so money is tight, so for our anniversary I downloaded some music burned a cd with romantic and raunchy songs and took some "pictures" for him and left it in his truck so he would find it, all i got was a text msg saying nice ****. Then he went out after work and didn't come home until 7:30 (he gets off work at 4:30). So my bbqed steak and grilled potatoes and vegetables were ruined. Me and the kids ended up eating by ourselves. So if you can figure it out, let me know!
2006-08-09 15:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by funshine_81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time. The guy goes a period of time doing all the moves and then wishes the wife would make some moves, just so he knows that she is still into him. It's frustrating for me to always be the first one to move. In my case my wife rarely makes any moves, and rarely gives me any signals that she is even interested. When I do make the moves she usually allows me to continue, but her actions are just as boring as mine. So I found this sight that has wonder ideas. I have been practicing them for a year and it has helped a lot. Here is one example: Tonight take a flashlight to bed and after the lights are out, go under the covers and turn on the light. When he wants to know whats going on, give him the light and tell him to shine the light on areas of your body that he wants to see more closely and examine, then do what ever pops up! Good Luck
2006-08-09 12:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'luvaboy' you should try to make it romantic. Then he can learn from you. Remember no one is psychic and if you don't show him he won't know. My husband is the same way...but sometimes I like it when he says "come here!"
I don't think the romance is lost just that not EVERY time you have sex it has to be romantic.
2006-08-09 12:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately this happens to alot of men and it's not because they don't love you it's just that they are tired perhaps from a long day at work and all the stressors in life. you should try to be the romantic one now and spice it up, it's not always up to the man to do this women gotta get involved too.
2006-08-09 12:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by luvaboy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "At some point, you have to be the bigger person. You have to set the mood, and have him jump aboard. You can use the classics, bubble bath, candlelit dinner, massage. Then put it on him. Oral, all of that. Afterward, hold him. Ask him if he enjoyed the romantic moment. Then, let him know that you enjoyed it, and look forward to many more nights of it."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-09 13:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be more romantic and dress sexy for him when hes coming home from a hard day give him a Hard night
2006-08-09 12:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋