i feel like forgiving myself is difficult for me than forgiving others
2006-08-09 04:54:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Forgiving is not easy, whether you try to forgive someone else or yourself. That's why retalliation is rampant in this world. That's also why it's easier to find excuses - "justification" (= making something unjust appear just!).
I f you commit an offence (sin) you are hurting someone (which may be yourself) AND your conscience at at the same time. So you need to WANT to forgive yourself!
That is only possible if you truly regret your transgression AND you resolve to do better next time. Don't worry, you will stumble again and then you will have start the process again. I know, I have experience.
So, whether someone else hurts you or you hurt yourself, FOR YOU forgiveness is the cure if done from your heart.
2006-08-09 07:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by fresch2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people it is harder.
Some people do not have a problem with it, but it may be that they will have greater problems in the end.
It is very important that you learn to forgive yourself, but it should not be too easy. You should be sure that you understand what you have done and it's repercussions, you should think carefully about any reparations you can make. Sometimes it is enough to say you were wrong to the other person, sometimes it is not. You must try to make the reparation fit the offence, Sometimes you can't pay back to the person involved, but maybe you can do something good for others. Also you need to think about how you can avoid the same mistake in future. It is all very specific, to you personally and the hurt you've done.
What you need is to feel back in balance.
Then it should be easier for you to forgive yourself.
Forgiveness is only the beginning. It is part of a cycle:
know yourself
forgive yourself
love yourself
love other people
which should then lead to good actions.
But the thought and knowledge come first, and they take time.
2006-08-09 05:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by hi_patia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving yourself for your wrong doings can be easy or difficult depending on what needs forgiving. It's harder to forgive yourself in some instances, because you have to live with what you've done, and you might often critisize yourself for not rectifying the situation at the time.
For example, I knew a boy who has done many things in his life he is not proud of(use your imagination). He's a good person overall, he just did some stupid things. In his case, he finds it difficult to forgive himself because his past haunts him on occassion, and he has alot of baggage from it. He feels remorse, and it sorry, but he often can't forgive himself.
My suggestion is to try and find the good in whatever situation you're trying to forgive yourself for. If something good came out of it, then it's alot easier to forgive yourself.
Just keep at it. ;)
2006-08-09 05:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by The White Ninja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are forgiving yourself for. If you forgive yourself for being a serial killer so you feel ok when you go out and do it again, I'd say that's not ok. If you're talking about spending over budget or something that hurts only yourself, learn your lesson and forgive - but don't forget.
2006-08-09 04:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that making mistakes is part of life and that everybody makes and that we learn from them but I always have much more difficulty in forgiving myself than I do others. I don't really understand why but I'm always much harsher on myself than others.
2006-08-09 05:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by aysha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time with this as well as I am much harder on myself than with anyone else. I have high standards I aim for, and I beat myself up when I don't reach them
2006-08-09 11:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. We tend to be harder on ourselves than other people. But it's because we can see what a mistake it was and we don't give ourselves any room for how we saw it at the time.
2006-08-09 05:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you being too hard on yourself?
No one is perfect. Mistakes are a fact of life. It is our response to the mistake that matters.
Forgive yourself. It will do your physical and emotional well-being good.
2006-08-09 05:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by autumnlotus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lot harder on myself than I am on others. That's because I expect more from myself than I do others.
2006-08-09 05:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by detailsondemand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋