what i actually mean is what is in store for me?
2006-08-09 04:52:08 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I got pregnant at 17, and had my baby at 18. I was only in labour for 2 hours, and I hardly felt a thing all you need is gas and air (entonox) and your sorted. Its not as hard or as painful as people make out, its just like having bad indegestion - you'll get through it no problem, as you got to remember to take deep breaths especially through your contractions as it will ease the pain alot. I never lost any sleep with my baby, im loosing it now as he is older at 3 he would rather stay up and is so full of energy, i some times wish he was a little baby it was so much easier. The hard part is bringing them up, but remember raising a child as your own and providing a warm and loving home for the child will be your greatest achievement ever, and it is worth it to see your child so happy, and when your child says he loves you its the best thing in the world - nothing beats the feeling of being a mother and your child loves you for being you. He or she will become your new best friend, and will be totally dependable on you. By the way, congratulations on your pregnancy, hope it all goes OK, and go and see the doctor if you havent already, you will need to be booked in for your ultrasound scan and you will need to take 'folic acid' tablets to help your baby's growth and development.
2006-08-09 10:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kimber1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very different experience and not all women have the same sort of experience. Some are sick all the way through some not all the way and some not at all. Some find that they have lots of energy right through but some just sleep all the time and am sure there are other experiences.
As you know it is for a limited time anyway {9 months max} and then the joy of seeing the baby makes you forget it all for most women. Do note though that having a child is no child's play. Having a baby is not even half the story there is taking care of the baby and being responsible for somebody else apart from yourself 25 hours a day 81/2 days a week.
All the best.
2006-08-09 05:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's in store for you is having some little thing totally dependent on you for its survival needs. Something that totally loves you. Having a baby changes your life, in every way. Sometimes you hear new parents talking about how their (very much wanted) baby has changed their lives, and you wonder how the human race continues. But ask each one of them if they regret it, and very few say they do. Sure its hard work, for a time your life is not your own, not in the way that you know it. Baby needs routine, sleep, feeding and changing, playing and cuddles often when its least convenient for you. But they don't stay babies for all that long, and before you know it they emerge into little creatures of their own, gaining independence from you daily. Yes, your sleep will be interrupted, yes you won't be able to finish a meal without interruption, or a phone call, but you will experience total and complete love, for your child and from it, you will watch your child develop and grow and learn new things daily, much of which is attributable to you and what you teach it, and there isn't a feeling in the world like it. There is rarely a "right" time to have a baby, and usually its the "wrong" time. The more practical help you have from friends and family the better, so you can still have some time to be yourself. But if it was so bad people wouldn't keep on doing it. Its different for everyone, some take to it naturally, others have to work at parenting, but being in a stable relationship helps. I know plenty of people who have had children at your age, most of them have become better people for it and have inspired me as to what mothers should be. Some have struggled with it, and if I'm honest, I think I would have, but I was pretty immature when I was 18.
the face that you have asked such a sensible question is indicative of your level of maturity. I was 29 when I had my daughter, and I suffered from dreadful post natal depression, I was in a violent and abusive relationship and running a busy biker's pub. My family were all at least 50 miles away and I had severe ME. Couldn't have been a worse scenario for having a baby, but my daughter was the one thing that kept me going. Attending to her needs, the closeness and bonding when feeding her, the fun we had when I changed her, taking her out or just chatting to her and watching the world through her eyes, watching her grow, learn to talk, play games and everything else was just the absolute best. I wouldn't change a thing. She is 8 now, we live near my family, I am a single mother, I am now too ill to work, but every day I feel blessed that this wonderful, beautiful gift is in my life, still learning, still growing, and still giving me the biggest buzz when she tells me she loves me. All the hard work, sleepless nights (weren't that many that I can remember), dirty nappies etc etc pale into insignificance against the beauty of knowing her. Every day she makes me proud to be her mother. Good luck, and God Bless.
2006-08-09 05:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loads is in store, for now though just make sure you go to your antenatal appointments and eat healthily. a good tip is to try and avoid too many sugary foods as this can cause you to have a big baby!
one thing i found helped me to understand what stages my baby was at every week is that i found a pregnancy calendar which i put on my mantlepiece. i think you can go to babycentre.com and get one e-mailed to you. as it's fascinating thinking about how they develop. just think at the moment your baby is only about 5 - 13mm and weighs less than a gram!
i would also start to save some money because baby stuff is expensive. realistically you need to buy £2,000 worth of stuff as a minimum! and don't expect to stop spending money once your baby's here.
i would also start to think about what sort of labour you want. i really didn't want to have an epidural, but would have had one if necessary. luckily i had a straightforward birth and only used entinox and pethadine. the best thing i did was talk to friends and family who'd had children because they really do know what they're talking about.
good luck with everything, because you're at the start of something amazing!
2006-08-09 07:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!!!!! There is so much for you to get ready for. Go to your GP and you can get this book they give to women that are pregnant. It helps you through your pregnancy and with the birth of your baby. You could also go on a few websites about pregnancies and how your baby develops and how you change. One site is called babycenter. It is good and tell you every thing you need to know. Plus talk to your mum if she knows, I'm sure she will explain a few things to you. Don't be scared as this is a wonderful thing in life. Your life will change but it will not get worse at all. I have two boys and would not change them for the world. Good luck with the hard work that is coming your way, its worth every minute.
2006-08-09 06:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your partner/family think?
How do you feel about it?
Then you can just read anything and everything on the internet.
Being pregnant is the easy bit.
Having a baby is relatively easy too. It's when they start to need more that it gets harder.
All sorts of things to consider - home for starters. Do you have a place of your own? Can you afford a place of your own etc.
Do you work? Money matters a lot.
Are you isolated? Will you have help?
You have to give up an awful lot to care for and raise a child well.
You can't take them back!!
2006-08-09 05:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is the easy part...lol. It is after the baby is born when the real work begins. Try to get as much rest as you can...especially in the last few weeks of your pregnancy. When the baby naps you REALLY need to take a nap. Don't worry about the dishes piling up, or dirty laundry. Just do a a load of your clothes and baby's clothes when you need them. Your b/f can fend for himself, or make him do all the laundry. Make sure you take your prenatal vitamins. They will help you keep up your energy level and if you breastfeed you need to continue taking them so you don't become anemic, because the baby will take what it needs, even if you don't have extra stored.
2006-08-09 04:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morning sickness. A lot of pain during labour, unless you are really lucky. Have you thought about all you options. It is so easy to get all excited.
No more nights out cut out drinking and smoking. You will be tired before and after. Don't for get having a child is a full time job. What ever decision you go with is the right one .
Good luck..
2006-08-09 04:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your not going to see much of your twenties and a lot of your mates might p you off for always partying around by not being tied to a baby etc But their time will come and by then you will have all the answers. Then when you are about 35 - not a bad age at all- you are still young enough to enjoy your teenager offspring and still young enough to catch up on all that partying you missed out on. Life is great, live it
2006-08-09 05:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by Michael G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be fine! Im 22 weeks pregnant. The beginning was hard, i was really sick with ALL DAY (morning) sickness! But after my 3rd month everything as perfect. I found out what i was having my 20th week and you should be getting your 1st ultrasound prob. when you are 12 weeks. Im having a babygirl and she moves around like she is trying to get out! It's a beautiful thing! Congrats. girl!
2006-08-09 05:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by NaVy WiFeY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋