i started at a very young age and want her to be prepared for this, she is very mature for her age and don't want her to be freaked out when it happens, how can i explain it without her getting confused and/or scared....?
2006-08-09 04:48:05 · 31 answers · asked by ramos_luanne 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just make sure you let her know it's perfectly natural. Make her feel comfortable. Take her out shopping just you and start a casual conversation. Let her know what a beautiful young lady she is turning out to be and then just...talk to her about it! trust me, if she is mature she will totally understand. And who knows, she might surprise you and tell you she already knew about it!
2006-08-09 04:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might start out with a book. They have some very child friendly yet educational books out there.
Make it a "Mommy & Me" day. Get the book(s) before hand, go out for lunch (alone) maybe a picnic...tell her that shes really growing up into a beautiful young lady, and her body is going to change, and you wanted to ask her if she has any questions about it.
Offer her the book (if it works, read it together) shes young enough that she might not be embarrassed, and tell her that when a little girl starts growing into a woman, she will get breats (she already knows this) but that her body will also start making itself ready so that when she is 20 years old, (ha ha) her body will be able to have babies. In order for this to happen, her body will start practicing and she will have something called a period. That means that once a month, she will bleed for a few days, and her tummy might hurt when it happens. Then explain about the products available (tampons, pads) and ask her if shed like you to show her how to use them, so she will know when the time comes.
(shell probably want tampons-pads are dangerous in younger kids :-x )
Anyway hope I helped. Good luck! Just don't be dry about it. If you act open and confortable about it, so will she. Shes going to mirror your attitude-make sure she feels like she can go to you with any questions and not feel weird.
(btw, she might know already-you'd be surprised what kids learn from their friends at school.)
2006-08-09 04:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Bell Jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom started telling us girls a little bit about reproduction and "growing up" a little at a time. That way, she wasn't bombarding us with too much at once. I'd start with the basic puberty talk and encourage her to ask questions. Tell her what you experienced and how confused you were at her age. Let her know that no questions are barred or stupid and that she can come to you with anything. I assume she knows where babies come from - I'd focus right now on her body, peer pressure and self esteem. Hopefully yu have to worry about her trying smoking more than her having a premature sexual encounter. Either way - my mom was very open with us and hense, I never felt the urge to hide anything from her. And although I dated a lot during my teenage years, I didn't do anything serious until I was in my early twenties. So don't think that educating her is going to "give her ideas". You can't stop her from learning about sex - so give her the tools necessary to make good decisions.
2006-08-09 04:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that at some point in time she will experience what's called her period.
what a period is:
it's when your uterus sheds it's lining and you have a bloody discharge for a few days. it's o.k. though, b/c it happens to all women and it's a sign that you are growing up and you are becoming a woman!
it doesn't just flood out of your body, it just kind of leaks. so, that's why we use things like pads and tampons to catch it and dispose of it.
it doesn't hurt or cause you pain, but your tummy may feel a little funny and that's what we call cramps. cramps are caused from your uterus twisting to get that lining out.
i would use a picture of female anatomy to explain where her uterus is and also show her tampons and pads. tell her that when she gets her period that you guys will make a big day of it! you can go out for make-overs at the department store and then have a ladies' lunch and maybe some shopping!
this way she'll ujnderstand that it's a good thing!
i just recommend you be completely up front and honest about it. it's nothing to shy away from and i give you kudos for realizing you should bring it up!!!!
way to go mom!
take care.
2006-08-09 04:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is as mature as you think she is then just talk to her. At 9 years old these days she probably know about it, but talk to her anyway like her girlfriend. Ask her if she's interested in a boy if your going to explain to her about sex. Remember the best way to protect her is to educating her as much as possible. With the world today, being straight forward is something everyone could appreciate, especially from her mom.
2006-08-09 05:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that once a month the female body got to be clean like getting a fresh new start and the blood is all the nasty build up and it comes out to clean her inside. Good luck. Once its over you'll wonder why u was ever scared.
2006-08-09 04:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find that if my mother just would have came out and told me everything that i needed to know at the time instead of being shy and holding back i wouldnt have had to go looking through medical dictionaries like i did looking for info on my period.but if you just tell your daughter the basics she should be all right, everything that pertaines to her, like exactly what is happening to her, during those times, she will want to know why she is cramping so you will have to cover that, you can even go to the library and get one of those puberty books for preteens about menustration they have good illustrations in them that wont confuse her.and if she knows that she can always come to you about questions with her body she will feel more comfortable talking to you in the future when other private matters arise.
2006-08-09 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to be calm yourself. If you give the impression you are embarassed to discuss it with her, she will be embarassed about it as well.
Tell her that all women go through this.. it's natural and it isn't dangerous or embarassing. Below are some helpful web sites that might give you an idea on how to explain it.
http://library.adoption.com/parenting-girls/all-about-menstration/article/6622/1.html
http://www.teachingteens.com/tmenstr.htm
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/
2006-08-09 05:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her this great american girl doll books called "The Care and Keeping of You" i'm 13 and use it alot it goes through everything a girl faces threw pubety from acne to bras and from the menstral cycle to pubic hair. the books is for girls 8 and up and has things from a girls view. they also answer personal questions that girls sent into them after each chapter. it'll give her self confidence and answer most of her questions for almost everything her body will go threw during puberty - they sell them at almost every bookstore
2006-08-09 07:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by Me me me me me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋