ive just broke up with my boyfriend..he was mentally and phyiscally abusive..but we have a young daughter of one so i knew i couldnt bring her up in an enviroment like that so i told him to leave..he did but i thought it would be alot easier, i broke it of but i still cant get over him no matter what he has put me through..can someone please help thanx
2006-08-09 04:25:46 · 16 answers · asked by asha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its the best thing you have done for your daughter. If see started to see this, she would think it was normal for men to hurt women. I know you would hate some bloke to do it to your daughter. So I think you are a very strong women as it is. Well done for doing the right thing for YOU and your daughter. It will take time but think back on what he did to you and what he put you through, a life of hell really. Now you and your daughter are safe together. Good luck with your new start on life. Dont forget your are a strong women.
2006-08-09 04:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you will, if not for your daughters sake, as well as your own and it does get easier, I know I've been there, just count your lucky stars, that you are alive to tell the tale, and DO NOT take him back, as he'll try all the tricks in the book like saying sorry it'll never happen again and all that bull but don't be fooled by it, remember it's his loss at the end of the day, and keep thinking of your little girl, and you will find happiness, all good things come to those who wait. Have a great life!
2006-08-09 06:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by loopysu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by protecting your daughter from growing up around that kind of environment, but its normal to miss the person. Im sure you had your good times, but remember how much stress was involved and most of all, the abuse. How much longer could you have taken it? And consider your daughter. She's your number one priority and you did the right thing. I am sort of in the same situation, go to Wikipedia and type in FALLING OUT OF LOVE WITH SOMEONE. I found several good articles that helped me realize that the love wasnt right.
2006-08-09 04:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid only time will heal your pain. Its not easy gettin over sum1 but eventually with time the pain does'nt hurt as much it just becomes a dull ache but you need 2 b strong and not give in2 temptation of tryin 2 get back 2gether with him - bcoz i think uv made the rite decision there. If ur fortunate enough you mite even fall in love again with sum1 else and then it wont hurt at all.
2006-08-09 04:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by wotagem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a good friend. If you have any of your old friends around you, make sure you see them often and go out with them. Don't let the day get lonely. The more you keep yourself busy with things you like to do and people you like to see, the less time you will spend thinking about him.
take your daughter to music classes and sit through it yourself. It will lift your spirit.
2006-08-09 04:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Yasmin K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need a change in direction a new job (could be difficult with a nipper) hobby - start a mum and toddler group. need to occupy your mind with something else. gradually if he stays away the thoughts of him will get less and less and he becomes history. but there is a long way to go til then
2006-08-09 04:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can be strong he will kill you in the end if you allow this to go on, they never change, well only the ones who never do it twice, once it happens twice say good bye your daughter dont need this , she will grow up a nervious wreck otherwise, mine did stay away it will get better,, and there are decent me out there, i found an angel...
2006-08-09 04:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal for you and others like you in that situation. Be strong and remember your doing it for the right reasons and Mr. right could be around the corner........Give it time and show as much support to the little one.
Good luck.
2006-08-09 04:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tony Hi_teck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you guys have a daughter it will be harder to get over your guy but in order for you to move on with your life you need to think about your daughter and how much happier she would be to see that her "mommy" isn't getting hurt. do fun activities with her keep the both of you occupied
2006-08-09 04:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just see him for exactly what he is, a bully.
You need time to come around from the negative effects he has had on your life and indeed your self esteem.
You can then move on.
2006-08-09 04:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋