He wants me to wear it and says that I clearly don't care about him since I don't want to wear it. But truly, if he knew me well, he would know that I don't wear things like that. It's not my style, it's not my taste and I never wear necklaces. Also, I told him how sweet it was and that I loved that he thought of me, but that I would just hang it somewhere where I would see it everyday. Am I wrong? Should he be mad?
2006-08-09 04:22:48 · 18 answers · asked by Erin J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have dated him for a while, then you should be upset that he doesn't know you. If not, just explain what you did here, that you love the thought, but aren't too hot on the gift.
2006-08-09 04:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Marshal 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He might be more hurt and embarrased than mad. But, I wouldn't just hang it somewhere. That would probably make him feel worse. My boyfriend gave me a diamond necklace for this past Christmas. We had only been together for a month or two which made me feel a little awkward. I didn't like it. It's nothing that I would wear. I told him I did but, I never wear it. Wrong on my part, yes. Although, the more I look at it today, the more I like it because I know now how much he loves me and it's a reminder of the time that we have been together and, all the problems we have in our relationship with each other that we talk our way through (he was in Iraq so he has some issues) I wouldn't get rid of it for the world. In fact, if we ever get married, that's going to be the first time that I wear it. Honestly, I would put it away someplace safe where he can't see it and be reminded of his bad gift all the time. I don't know how long two have been together, I don't know how long ago he gave you this necklace and, I don't know how sentimental you are but, it might have more meaning to you a year from now. Maybe I'm stupid or maybe I'm just an old school hopeless romantic.
2006-08-09 12:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by indigonipple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always just wear it when he's around.. or tell him that you like the fact he thought about you, but your just not into wearing necklaces. He shouldn't be mad. And no you are not wrong.
2006-08-09 11:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by sarahmae6x9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.
well it is obvious that your BF would not have gifted you that if he knew your tastes and likings. he just gave you something what HE FELT GOOD. there is nothing wrong what he did.. well partially.
tell him, giving subtle hints what you like and what you prefer. perhaps he would keep this in mind the next time he buys something for you. as for now, tell him that the necklace that he gave is very precious for you and would keep it close to you safely and wont spoil it by wearing it occasionally. tell him that you will preserve it as sweet memory.
both happy.
nice?
2006-08-09 11:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by karan tripathi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could wear it as a braclet or go on a big date and wear it then. if he gets mad at you for not wearing it then get him something that isnt his style and expect him to wear it. if he does the same thing as you then make a bargin that you could each just hang each other's gifts on a place where you will see it everyday
2006-08-09 11:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear it a couple of times (when you are together) then dump it in your drawer. Hehehe. At least you put in the effort to wear the horrible thing to show appreciation for the sincere gesture. And tell him "next time you give plan to give me something, take me with you to the mall!" ;)
2006-08-09 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that it would mean alot to him if you wore it once in a while. Is a necklace worth a big fight? It won't kill you to wear it, and it will make him feel good. You might even grow to like it.
2006-08-09 11:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me! I dated this guy for about 2 1/2 years and he would buy me jewelry. His taste was a lot different than mine. I wore it anyway. Eventually, I become attached to the things because they represented his love for me, not because it represented my style...
This is tricky, good luck!
2006-08-09 11:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear it when its just the 2 of u
2006-08-09 11:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably hurt his feelings that you didn't want to wear it. Just humor him and wear it for a while, then put it away and wear it occasionally when you go out.
2006-08-09 11:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋