A friend of mine is going through a tough time at the moment with his divorce.His ex wife is making life very difficult for him and he's doing the best he can.There are children involved and he's still supporting them emotionally and financially as he should be.I care about him alot in a romantic sense and we have talked about our feelings.He likes me alot but is unsure of what he should do?He's talking about moving away and i just want to help him and make life easier for him.What can i do?He already knows that im here for him whenever he needs me but how can i get him to see that life will get better in time??
2006-08-09 04:22:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just encourage him to the best of your advantage, and show him how much you mean to him. Encourage that if he's unhappy, there are always other alternatives--but that running away is NEVER an option. Try to shy away from allowing your feelings to get too out of control, and focus more on the side of what the real issue is. He may just be falling for you because he is emotionally detached from his wife, or has had feelings for you for a long time that went unaddressed. Just help him take his time and focus more on yourself being happy and minimally on how to help hi...never carry the world on your shoulders. it will be okay. :-D
2006-08-09 04:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by ~*SpHyRyT*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sticky situation and it is nice that you are there to support him as he goes through a divorce, but you also have to realize that since he is in such a rough patch of life right now, that in a sense he may be using you as a crutch. I am not saying he does not care about you, but it is best if you let him work these problems out on his own, and when he is ready to get involved again, you can be there. But, for now just be his friend and listen and help him the best that you can.
2006-08-09 11:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by manderin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get pushy and try to force him to turn to you, then you are only setting yourself up for heartbreak. Be his friend, not his rebound. A relationship with the rebound never works. Give him some time and don't push him away with too much attention. He probably isn't ready for anything serious. Also, you need to prepare yourself for the fact that he will start dating again and it (at first) probably won't be with you. Do not take it personal or you will lose him. Good Luck
2006-08-09 12:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are here for him and is involved with him at some point, then in what way are you contributing to support him? If he is ready to leave and start a new life...with you?...then he should get on with it and stop procastinating...Unless you can prove that life will be better with time, he has seen much of reality and what he sees isn't very promising...Soooo dig in and start making plans with or without him in mind...
2006-08-09 11:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by singirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs a counselor and you need to back away fast! Don't be the rebound girl. If you are interested in him in a romantic sense, your objectivity is NOT there. Give him space and time.
2006-08-09 11:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to help make his life easier unless he asks. Let him be a man and deal with his life the way HE has to. Then when things even out let him call you and go from there.
2006-08-09 11:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick to handjobs until she moves out. Then move onto bj's but don't swallow.
After a while you can throw the f uck on him
2006-08-09 11:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Just askn with a smile 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be his friend and give him time,you can do no more!
2006-08-09 11:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋