* if they are truly sorry and are not a repeat offender.
2006-08-09 04:18:02 · 44 answers · asked by Dominika 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Things can happen,if he or she is really sorry and not a repeat offender it may be forgiven,BUT,DON'T bring it up every time you have a disagreement.Forgive goes with forget,so if you do one do both.If it happens again,Get away!!
2006-08-09 04:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
How would you know if they aren't a repeat offender?? If they got caught the first time, they would just hide it better. Unless you keep an eye on them 24/7 then you really don't know what they are doing when you aren't around!
Not only that, but the trust wouldn't be there anymore. The first time they come home late or don't answer a phone call, what would be the first thing that came into your mind. Even if you were told they weren't with another person, would you REALLY believe them??
No, I could not forgive something like that.
2006-08-09 04:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by mytrollinid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you have no idea what so ever if they are or are not a repeat offender. You have no idea how many times they have done it. You only know what they tell you. Second, of course they are going to say they are truly sorry, who wouldn't ? What it all comes down to is if they truly loved you they wouldn't have done it in the first place. That is not the kind of love I want to build a life on. How about you ?
2006-08-09 04:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not say the common phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater" because I simply do not believe that to be true all of the time. However, I will say this - it is easy to forgive, but so hard to forget. Most relationships fail after adultry because the incident cannot be forgotten. This is what causes most problems. If you can vow to never bring it up again, and not let it interfere with your relationship with him then I say try it but ifyou know that this is something that you are going to always think about and bring up to him on occassion then I'd take some time apart. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 05:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie...it's easy to say yes or no now, not knowing exactly how one might feel when the situation presented itself...
I've been cheated on...I didn't forgive but we did stay together a while longer (and that wasn't what ended the relationship)...
I'd have to stay although it's likely I would not stay with him, it would truly depend on the situation...but at this stage in my life, I'm a lot less likely to put up with things I did when I was younger...when trust is broken, it's TOUGH to get it back...if he wants someone else so much he'll lie to me and/or betray me, then he's not really the guy for me...
2006-08-09 04:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would be too heartbroken and fearful that he would do it again, despite being sorry. Cheating is one thing I will not forgive for. I am a very forgiving person when it comes to other things, but cheating is a very serious offense and I could never forgive someone for doing that to me.
2006-08-09 04:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience I have to say no. I did forgive and got all that I'm truely sorry, I'll never do it again BS and what do you know it was nothing but crap. It will take the rest of your life to know if there will be a repeat offense.
2006-08-09 04:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could forgive, because I am a very forgiving person, but I could never forget. I feel like cheating is the worst thing you can do. I have never understood cheating. I could never stay with a man that cheated on me, because I could no longer trust him, and without trust there is no love.
2006-08-09 04:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should forgive him/her. I can see if yall were just dating but you already vowed to each other. Yeah they slipped up but you have to forgive if you want it to work. Everyone deserves a second chance. That doesnt mean that there wont be trust issues for a while but time will heal. So dont get a divorce over it. Try it one more time.
2006-08-09 04:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a serious question for you, what makes you so sure that he will not do it again? You obviously did not think he would do it the first time or you probably would not have married him. Of course he is sorry, but not because he cheated but because he got caught. You are going to do what you want, just make sure you make the RIGHT decision, because you can not go back in time!
2006-08-09 04:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by luv2bmrsh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but he would have to work hard to regain my trust. Also, as a couple whatever issues that were present prior to the infidelity need to be addressed. I forgave my ex because he expressed sorrow and promised never to do it again, but he did. I stayed with him for 3 more years trying to salvage our marriage while basically sharing him with his other woman. Forgiving is not the issue. The issue is if you will remain married to him. That is truly up to you but do whatever you do with eyes wide open.
2006-08-09 04:24:47 · answer #11 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋