I've been going out with this guy for 1 1/2 years and we really love each other, we used to have a really intense love and passion, and although that hasn't really waned, I feel like I might be getting bored with the relationship. This really breaks my heart because I don't believe its the truth, but I keep having thoughts about it. Is this just our relationship moving to another stage? I still love seeing him and doing things with him, but it's not that same giddiness as it was at the start.
2006-08-09 04:14:59 · 16 answers · asked by N. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Mr. Chivalry says, "Well, being in love is love. Just because you feel bored doesn't mean you're falling out of it. Relationships can hit a comfort zone, and the fire can be doused. It's up to the couple to keep the flame lit. If he came to you right now, and surprised you with the things you like and love, you'll feel like he was trying to keep it fresh. Why not do the same? It's up to both of you. If you don't want to take the effort, then end it."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-09 04:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giddiness is not love. It is the first phase of a relationship. Some people are addicted to this feeling and so they move on to another relationship with someone else to experience this feeling again. When it dies out they move on again. My suggestion....go do something to rekinddle the relationship by going away together on a romantic trip and spending a lot of special moments together. If it doesn't happen then it was never true love. True Love has the ability to fall in love many times but always with the same person.
2006-08-09 04:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dominika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is the same as when it started. That is a part of life it is change. If you are not unhappy then there is nothing to worry about. You two have probably become a little comfortable and familiar with one another. You might need to change things up. This is the time when you find out how strong your relationship is and you work on making things work. It is not always going to be a walk in the park. This is the time when you decide to either let love die and stop nurturing it or put more work into it. Its like when you get a new car, you love it at first but as it gets a little older you start to care less if its glistening in the sun as long as it is running. Well your relationship has lost that new car scent but it does not mean that it is time to send it to the junk yard.
2006-08-09 04:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. if you are not yet married. Fuggedaboudit.
If you are already married and have kids. You won't even have time to think about such problems. More so browse on the internet.
It's perfectly natural to get bored and lose the passion and the heat. Either way you would have to decide what the next plan of action would be. (If you are not married).
From my experience, the best course of action would be not to plan for anything. Que sera sera. Whatever will be will be.
You want some "giddiness" well, go out and hang out in bars.
You want "love" rather than being "in love" well, you'll get there - you don't have to do anything just be fricking normal.
2006-08-09 04:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by digileet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love is that you can hate somone but u still love them in love is like u will do anything for this person. it changes to this point when u become so close and there are things that bother you and you can tell him these things without worrying what he might say when your in love you hold it in But if you feel the urge and start thinking of cheating or going with other guys then ya i would say do it cause it will eat u up then later on you will regret not doing it then and maybe just try taking space become "friends" and go out with other people not on a date but just for fun to see how u actually feel about him If you start thinking of him while your out then guess what u are in love with him but if u think of him because u feel sorry then no the last thing you want is being with someone u feel sorry for.
2006-08-09 04:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting familuar with eachother and really knowing eachother, the giddiness is gone because the newness is over now, and now you can start to enjoy... yes the next stage of your relationship......... You should have already been growing closer and closer by this point, if you feel as if you haven't and that the giddiness was all you had for him and notheing really now, then you don't love him, you just enjoy his company as a friend enjoys a friend. Good Luck...........
2006-08-09 04:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's common, so don't you fret. Relationships are so exciting in the beginning because they are new and you are getting to know one another, plus you're still in the stage of working to impress one another. Affter a while, that does fade, but there are ways of reviving a stale relationship. Try taking a weekend road trip somewhere, or make it a point to try a new restaurant every week, or figure out ways to spice up your sex life. Introducing new experiences will definitely revive this old relationship!
2006-08-09 04:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never is babe! Love doesnt die or become less.... It matures into an openness and comfortableness. You are simply growing together and as long as you still love him and arent having any problems... Id say go with it. Dont give up. about 2 years ago, I started feeling similar, I just went with it and started finding out more and more about eachother.... things that you wouldnt do or say when you are all twitterpated (see bambi) and now because you are comfortable with eachother you do/say those things. Its perfectly normal. Now, Im happily married and going on 3 years. Its been amazing. Good luck.
2006-08-09 04:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love very seldom will remain the same year in and year out...there are ups and downs in every relationship...some higher and some lower than others....but love exist within both...during such periods, Love tends to take on other roles than attraction of physical intimacy...it lends itself to be supportive, whether that's being critical of the current circumstance or complementary..the intensity of love changes..this sounds like what your experiencing...having patients and understanding is what will allow this love to grow and take you naturally to the next level.
2006-08-09 04:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a common thing that happens in a relationship...i would guess that you were a sagittarius because we get bored in relationships easily. when in love goes to love, that's a reversal. love is suppose to go into "in love" I suggest that you talk about it and work on doing some of the same things you did in the beginning or find something that will spark the flame again...relationships get dull when you stop making things fun and exciting...do something wild and crazy or bring a new toy to bed it all depends on how big your "want to" is...if you want to be with him then you just gotta do it...selah
2006-08-09 04:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by tamika h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋