I was half asleep, and my fiancee started trying to have anal sex, which is too painful for me. I pretended to be asleep to see how far he would go. He stopped but then started to switch to regular vaginal sex. I immediately let him know I was awake and stopped him because I am prone to bladder infections, and that could have given me one. He knows this, and has seen me suffer with painful bladder infections. I kind of yelled at him and said, "You should have washed yourself. Don't you care about me? You know that causes bladder infections." He didn't say anything, but just seemed embarrassed and kind of laughed. This is really bothering me.
2006-08-09 04:13:31 · 11 answers · asked by stevie ann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Real men just don't do women that way. The next time he is asleep take a rubber band and snap his b**** with it, then ask how he liked that.
2006-08-09 04:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well i dont understand how having sex can lead to bladder infections i think you are being a little parenoid but with good reason, yes he was imbaressed cause he does know this but he loves you and wants to be with you in everyway possible and i think there could have been a better way to have approached this matter and if i was you i would be talking to a dr. and getting to the bottom of this and telling him how it is disruppting your life. I understand about not wanting anal ..lol hear you on that one but i would appoligize for over reacting on the other department and getting to the nitty gritty of things and asking more questions of how having vaginal sex leads to bladder infections when the bladder is a seperate organ from the vagina .
2006-08-09 11:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by sht4brains4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset - and the dude needs a 2x4 upside the head!! A close friend of mine is prone to bladder infections and her last one became a kidney infection because she didn't catch it in time - and it put her in the hospital in severe pain!! After seeing her try to deal with it, I would never wish a bladder or kidney infection on anyone, so you have my deepest sympathy!
And why is your man trying to have sex with you while you're alseep? Or do you like being woken up like this??
Maybe you need to restate what, where and when are good times to initiate sex!!
Good Luck!!
Aloha!
2006-08-09 11:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety you did the right thing. No man should attempt to go there after he has attempted anal sex. He could have given you all kinds of bacteria like that and this is just wrong. HE should know better. Have a talk with him, as uncomfortable the subject is, and explain why he should not do this.
2006-08-09 11:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should have washed hiself after he did that. Sometimes men get so horny that the only thing that's thinking is their penis. Talk to him seriously when he's not in the mood so he can really listen to what you have to say. Your health is important. If you guys want to try anal sex, maybe he could put on a condom during anal and take it off during vaginal.
2006-08-09 11:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset.
First of all, I'm sure he knows you prefer not to have anal sex. You need to get it into his head that you do not like it and only with your consent should he ever try again.
Secondly, he is apparently not concerned with your susceptibility to bladder infections. Let him know the cost of treating one and hit him where it hurts, no sex while treating it.
2006-08-09 11:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he was sleeping himself, he was wrong and you laying down the law should put an end to it. If it doesn't he has an issue. There are cases I have read about that guys molest their wives while the guy is sleeping himself. It's not common, but it does happen. Also, your boyfriend may have read one to many Penthouse letters and developed the wrong idea about what's sexy and what is not. If you were in a Penthouse letter you would have woke up in a horny frenzy and raped him. I know it's not real life, but young men read them and may get the wrong view of what women like.
In the end, if you telling him your feelings does not stop the behavior, then you have a problem. Otherwise I think he more then likely feels foolish of his mis-read of you and what's acceptable.
2006-08-09 11:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a sexual assult, Bother you? you should be enraged, he saw you only as a release for his sexual need, there was no thought about you or the pain you would be in.
I think your really need to examine your relationship with this person.
2006-08-09 11:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible that he would do that to you when you are sleeping. You need to have a talk with him and let him know that you are not comfortable with him doing that. Out side of the Bed!
2006-08-09 11:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he should have woken you up rather than try to sneak in while you were sleeping...I'd have a serious talk with him about what is ok and what isn't.
2006-08-09 11:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋