They've broken up about 5 to 6 times over the 25 years. They're both in their early 40's and have never been married.. Whenever he was seeing someone else, she'd always try to be around, content to be the outside woman. When he was in between relationships, she'd step up and be the main girl. She probably was hoping that over time, he'd get fed up and just marry her.
Now he's met someone and truly fallen in love and plan's to marry this new girl. What do you think of the woman? And the man?
2006-08-09 04:12:25 · 7 answers · asked by shugs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are all correct in some way. Gingusxconn, the guy has told the new girl about this longstanding girlfriend, but hasn't mentioned the new girl to the ex yet. The new girl insists on that since she thinks the ex is unstable ( holding on to something non-existent for 25 years is VERY unstable) and might stalk her. Thing is, the guy's a real soft heart and she'll call crying telling him she wants him back, she can't fuction and he'll try to comfort her and support her but the new girl is getting kinda tired of the crap and wants to back away until the dust settles.
2006-08-09 04:36:50 · update #1
I'd say you never were the one.....and you were just the frosting, never the cake, never the one of substance.....he was always looking for his cake and frosting combined, and has found it......plus, you are a lot older now, has he found a younger woman??? Thats always a factor too...you are older, and he is 25 years used to you.......
I don't know, this is just how I see it.
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2006-08-09 22:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say if you don't know within 6 months of dating if you want to marry the person, you probably never will. While this isn't always the case, it's a good rule of thumb. How sad to hear she has been so hung up on him all these years! He had to have been doing things to lead her on and give her hope, though. You can't place all the blame on her. I had an ex once that I absolutely loved so bad it hurt. He wasn't giving me everything I needed in the relationship though, but every time I'd pull away and try to move on, he'd shower me with affection, tell me how much he loved me, etc, til I'd come back. Even gave me a heart ring with a stone in the middle on a major holiday, yet was with-holding love, affection, etc, then after all his family seeing the ring, telling him "it's about time!" and everybody assuming it was a promise ring, he tells me all the ring meant was that he loved me and always wanted to be with me; it didn't have anything to do with marriage. Wow. that hurt. but I stayed, cause at least it meant he loved me. I know; crazy. but long story short, I finally had enough, and left him again. Found someone who loved me, and wanted to make a commitment to me. As soon as he heard, he tried to get me back again, but thank God, I had a brain in my head, and stayed with the new man, 'cause we ended up getting married. I say all that, to say this; maybe this girl had opportunities to move on, or at least tried, and the guy kept reeling her back in for 25yrs. Let's be realistic; if he didn't want her there, he would've found a way to get her off his back a lot sooner. I feel sorry for her. If I had stayed in my old relationship the way it was, then after 25 yrs found out he was marrying someone else, I'd go a little bizzerk on him!!All those yrs she wasted, hoping for him to turn into a real man, and marry her. Maybe the reason he hasn't told her he's he's getting married, is because he knows the new girl is gonna find out some stuff he doesn't want her to hear. Or maybe he just wants to still have his back up girl, even once he's married. If I was the fiance, I'd think long and hard about marrying a guy who would willingly, and knowingly, play with some other woman's heart and emotions the way he has, for as long as he has. No matter how you slice it, that was wrong.
2006-08-09 05:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the man is getting married, and the woman doesn't know. Since she was just a f*ck buddy, it really doesn't matter what her reaction will be. Unless, ya'll had talked about marriage before, and you haven't given her an answer. Either way, who gives a sh*t. Go get married. But, you better tell the wife about her, so when she shows up at your house for a booty call drunk, the wife won't freak out and divorce ya. LOL!!!!
You're an idiot.
2006-08-09 04:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like neither of them were in Love. They were using each other to avoid finding a life.
2006-08-09 04:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 05:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been holding on to something that was never really there to hold. He was just filling up available time.
2006-08-09 04:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋