My ex husband and I divorced last year and although it has been very hard I have tried everything in my power to make sure that we have a good relationship now for our children. We were best friends before we got married and I want to be best friends again. I do know now that we should have never been married, he has too many issues and could not be faithful to save his life. I am in a new relationship with another man and although the two of them talk and seem to get along wonderfully and neither one has ever said anything bad about the other, my girl friends have me worried that my friendship with the ex is keeping my current boyfriend from getting close. Every now and then (mostly if he's been drinking) he will make reference to me still having feelings for my ex but when we talk about it he says he knows its not like that. I do still LIKE my ex husband, aside from being a cheat he's a good person and he is a wonderful father, he is just not husband material and never will be.
2006-08-09 04:06:28 · 16 answers · asked by Red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok maybe best friends is a little too strong but very good friends.
2006-08-09 04:18:17 · update #1
Hey Stamos get a life, my only intention is to make this as easy as possible for my kids, my ex is the ex for a reason, no take backs no more chances, no longing for what used to be, what used to be... hurt like hell. What's more important... my kids and the relationship that I want them to maintain with thier father. I have seen some nasty divorces, restraining orders and all, I don't want that. I don't want my daughter to worry about her mom and dad possibly fighting at her wedding one day. I've been the child in an ugly divorce I'll do whatever it takes to never make my children feel or experience the things I did.
2006-08-09 05:23:39 · update #2
Your current boyfriend needs to understand that you are doing this for the sake of your children I applaud both you and your ex for being adults in doing this. If your current boyfriend does not have the confidence to deal with this, maybe you should be looking for someone else.........
Good Luck!
Oh yeah........your pics are great.
Just something about you readheaded women!
2006-08-09 04:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I've tried being friends with exes and it always falls apart. I guess it depends how you broke up. I broke up with a guy I'd been seeing for over a year. I had to break up with him because he was becoming so needy and I had a lot going on in my life. I initially said we could be friends, but it couldn't work. Every time we tried to hang out as friends, he was so hurt. If I was seeing someone, he couldn't deal with it. And then, we would fall back into old habits and we'd have to almost break up all over again. I've seen other old boyfriends and it's the same thing. There's too much sexual tension or someone was always the injured party and had hurt feelings. I think the ONLY way it would work is if you were both seeing other people. If you were both seeing other people and you were really in love with the other people (and/or married to them) you could probably be friends. You sound like you don't really want to be friends with your ex. Maybe in a couple years you could try to be friends...when you're past all the emotional crap.
2016-03-27 05:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kidding right? Your telling me that you want a relationship with your BF at the same time you tell him that your keeping the door open with your ex?
I don't think i've ever been with anything but redheadded girls and I must tell you, I can't take much more of this kind of babbling bullshti from your breed. He's already hinted. that was a true heart drunk guy moment. Now you know what the problem is, and you want to play both sides?
If that was your decision, I'd kick your a$$ to the curb. If I knew your true intentions, I'd drop you like a bad habit! Let's hope he never finds out and doesn't grow some balls. Remember that chapter's over, why do you keep trying to revise it?
2006-08-09 04:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by John Stamos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answer from experience. You can be civil with your ex, but if you want to be best friends with him, you will be sacrificing every relationship you have with other men. If the ex is in the picture as the person you trust and talk to about everything and all the stuff you do with your best friend, the new guy will feel cheated.
2006-08-09 04:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try and back off from him a little bit. If your girlfriends are noticing something and are willing to tell you that then you are too close to him. Make sure that your bf knows that he is number one and he is your best friend. And don't hang out with or talk to your ex as much as you have been.
2006-08-09 04:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that what you are doing with your ex-husband is really good, keeping him as a friend so that when your children grow up at least they can say that their parents where civil with each other. on the other hand if you like this new guy that you are dating than out of respect to him you should not address your ex as your "bestfriend" and you need to let your ex know that you guys will remain friends for the sake of your children together. because when he finds himself someone else to be with "she" wont like the idea of you guys being "bestfriends" so you should just start seeing him as a regular friend.
2006-08-09 04:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your current man doesn't have a problem with it, then I don't see why not. It would be good for your kids to have him in their life still. Stop putting so much into what your friends say-they don't live your life.
2006-08-09 04:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're commin' from.For me ....my ex-wife and i couldn't see eye to eye on anything,cause she wanted me back,and i wanted to be friends.but it worked out, after we had a long talk,we stayed friends for the kids' sake.me and her are friends,i talk to her boyfriends,i may not l;ike some of them it's not my place to say,but i'm socialable.as long as your current boyfriend realizes,your ex-husband is gonna be around. the better.i'm not saying invite him over for bbq'sor alot of things you'd typically do.cause that might give both of them the wrong idea.you know oick up kids for the wknd,talk a lil',same when he drops 'em off,or if he calls to talk to the kids,you talk for a min.but generally it does work some times.i hope this is the answer you were lookin for
2006-08-09 04:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...this is a tough one since you guys ended up married....I would just take this step by step, and go with the flow. I wouldnt force anything or would I contradict any decisions or set my mind on what I want...and make sure you are happy with yourself FIRST before you decide to get closer/close again to either in any perspective...
2006-08-09 04:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by ~*SpHyRyT*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the sake of ur kids u need to keep in touch with ur ex... just a hi o hello is good... n nothing more... there really is no harm in the two of u keeping in touch... as for ur bf... as long as he's not too possessive and allows u too keep in touch with ur ex..there is no problem
2006-08-09 04:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by abigail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋