Two nights ago, spouse threw a full beer can at my son and I, because, I was trying to get my son to plug the router in so that we could both use our computers. Son has been told to leave the internet to router at least 300 times which son refused. Was trying to get him to listen
With not a cross word between us, husband hurled a full beer can at us. He missed. I say nothing, unwilling to cause and arguement with him about his activety.
Next morning, husband gets up and asks me if my stomach is still bothering me (cause he finds me up and unable to sleep, been sick for a couple of days throwing up with my stomach burning. I tell him no, that what is bothering me is that he hurled the beer can at us without any provocation.
Then he tells me that it was my fault, that I am lazy, and good for nothing, etc.
Went to work and came home. He had already been drinking. He has a bad bed wetting problem and for the first time I refused to let him in the bed. He slapped me, I slapped him back
2006-08-09 03:34:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then he hit me with his fist in the mouth and now I have a busted up top and bottom lips complete with tissue hanging. I called 911, they roughed him up and sent him to jail for the mandatory 48 hours.
I have been with this man for twenty years and basically he is a good man he has problems like we all do.
We normally have a wonderful relationship with the exception of the fact that we don't agree on spending. We have a wonderful sex life, wonderful talks.
Yes I am somewhat railroaded and verbally abused. I have to just put up with his spending methods because if I say anything I have to live with his rath.
He doesn't run around or cheat on me and he is honest with me.
I have a fat lip, he has to spend a couple of nights in jail.
I really feel bad because the cop that responsed was a control freak. I saw him use mace on a woman because she talked to much which made me cry.
Abuse is everywhere, even cops do it. I cryed when he maced her for no reason.
I do love this man.
What would you
2006-08-09 03:42:19 · update #1
In twenty years, he never hit me with his fist until tonight.
Make no mistake, I work and I am not lazy.
2006-08-09 03:46:56 · update #2
Honey, he threw a beer can at you and your son, then he slapped you the next day. Do you think after he spends a couple of days in jail that he's going to bring home flowers and candy? He may, and be very sorry till the next time. But, I scared for you and your son. Two times in less than 24 hours! I don't care what you or what your son did nothing NOTHING deserves being treated like this. You said that he blames you, not only is he physically abusing you-he's mentally abusing you too. Your stomach hurting proably is a start of a ulcer, so you need to go have that checked out. Something is going on, and till he sits down and talks to you, you can't help! Please Please be careful!
The man has some mental problems as well as physical with the bed wetting. I would not even think about living with him, without him getting some counseling. Proably would be good for all of you to seek some help, if this marriage is going to be a healthy happy one. You don't and your son certainly does not need this. Being scared, and afaird! I wish I had the right words to tell you that this behavior is dangerous and knew what to tell you to fix it. Sometimes it can't be fix, and if this is the case, you and your son get out and make a new life for yourself were you don't have busted lips and dodging beer cans! God bless us all!
2006-08-09 04:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He never hit me with his fist once until tonight." That is a lot different from never being hit. Tell the police you need help and need it before is released. All communities have support systems for domestic abuse, use it. You are in a situation that will not improve. He drinks to the point of being abusive, but you claim to have a good relationship most of the time. Is most of the time when he is sober? Get help before you or your son are hurt. What if that full beer can had hit your son in the temple? Tell the police you need help, they have access to the systems of support. Good luck and get free now while you have a chance. Love does not, and never has, included taking abuse.
2006-08-09 04:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently it's time to move on. You need to look at the relationship you have with him. Obviously he has a drinking problem. And quite likely there is some spousal abuse going on in your home. You need to get yourself and your son away from there. Or, make your husband go away from there. He might have missed with the beer can, but will he next time? There is no excuse for his behavior.. and I'm willing to bet the bed wetting problem is caused by the drinking...it's common in men who drink alot.
2006-08-09 03:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a woman should never been bully by a man because her strengtgh is lesser than her partner. if you do love your partner, you must let him know how you feel. but you cant be bullied by him just bcos you love him. warn him that you will report him to the police the next time he used violent. he think of you so worthlessly and since he sae it is your fault, he shouldnt throw things at you, in front of your son, as your son may not respect you next time. quarrels between the two of you shouldnt interfere with the child.
2006-08-09 03:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by yanshan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time anyone hits you it is not your fault. You need to get your son out of there! I grew up with an abusive and drunk father and it has affected the rest of my life. It was not fair to me that my mother stayed with him when he treated all of us so badly. Now that i think back I see what a coward my mother is.
2006-08-09 03:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has some serious problems, and you need to take your son, and get out, before her seriously hurts one of you. He's abusive, and that can be very dangerous for you and your son.
Blaming you, and saying mean things to you is his way to ease his guilt, you gotta get out, and then maybe he will get some help that he seriously NEEDS!
2006-08-09 03:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f him u dont need that stuff no women needs to go through that even if they are good for nothing lazy pie eating cookie munching cigarete smoking tv wathcing couch potato smooching women. I peersonaly would say good bye to this type of women but no women diserves to get hit
2006-08-09 03:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for professional help. You should contact a local womans shelter. You don't have to leave, but they can help you with support groups. I've been there. This WILL get worse before it gets better.
2006-08-09 03:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Busted Upper Lip
2017-01-13 10:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask ??? You're an idiot if you stay, bottom line
2006-08-09 03:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋