My ex-husband and I use to have a good understanding until I got remarried . He and I have a child together and he pays child support, but doesn't spend time with him even when we say it is okay or not even if we take him to him. (his biological father lives nearly 300 miles away frm us)
2006-08-09 03:13:29 · 15 answers · asked by Tired of lies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like a dead beat Dad. In the end your ex will lose and your childs step father will win. Don't forse your child on your ex.
2006-08-09 03:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your main concern is the child. It's best that he doesn't go. Because if the father doesn't want to spend time with him the child will sense it. And one very important thing you should remember don't ever talk bad about his father were there is a chance the child can hear you. The father will come around and when he does you don't want the child to dislike he. He just can't handle you getting married and being with his child reminds him of you.
2006-08-15 23:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is having a hard time with the fact that there is now another man in your child's life.
No parents likes to hear their child call someone else daddy or momma and that is what usually happens when someone gets remarried.
Depending on how long this has been going on give your ex time to come to grips with the situation.
If he was spending time with his son before this happened then I can almost bet this is what is going on.
Explain to your ex that your new husband is not trying to take his place in his son's life and that you would never allow that to happen. Reassure him that his son still needs him in his life.
He is hurting right now just as you would be if the role was reversed and your son had a new stepmom that he was calling mommy...........Think about it.
2006-08-15 11:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is paying child support what is the problem. It is his choice whether he wants to be a part of his son's life and obviously he doesn't want to., Stop trying to force him to have a relationship with his son, it will only make the son resent you in the long run. As long as he is paying child support he should not be considered a "dead beat" father...he is doing his duty by financially supporting the child.
2006-08-15 21:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex and I had a good understanding until he got remarried a year ago. now I hardly ever get to talk to my daughter. they also live 300 miles away. my suggestion to you is keep the lines open, let the ex know theres no problem with him seeing his son but you cant force it. he may need time to get used to you being with someone else. hopefully he'll realize what he's missing and want to be a part of his sons life, until he does make sure your son knows it not his fault kids tend to personalize things like that.
2006-08-16 18:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by ithinkaboutit7233 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a selfish, self centered wrapped up in himself and/or his own misery to give a little attention to his child. These people don't deserve children but of course the kid loves him no matter what, right? Keep bringing him if you have to just for the kid's sake until he is old enough to realize his new dad is a real man, and a real dad, more loving and fun... genes or no genes.
Best of Luck.
2006-08-13 15:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going thru something like this rigt now he may be going thru what i call no other man will raise my child but in reality the other man raises your child more than he can ever do just cuz of your custody and its really expensive to try and travel all the time i dont think just cuz of him not spending time with his child classify him as a deadbeat u r getting finiancial support and thats more than most in reality he probaly wants to be there 4 his child but r u making him apart of his child's life talking to him about what the child is doing things like that
2006-08-16 01:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by blk man luvs pussc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is being so irresponsible, let your child accept the new dad and ask your husband to play a part as his irresponsible father cant do the duty well. Eventually your son will realise who is goodd..
2006-08-09 03:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by yanshan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's your problem why would you put your kid through that kind of bs he does not want to be botherd as long as he keeps paying his child support i guess there really is nothing else you can do
2006-08-16 09:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am sure you new husb is human and he can understand that whatever commnication that is existing btw you and your ex is because of your son, pls work on the communication for the sake of your son, it won't be good for him to be left out.
2006-08-17 02:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bobo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋