Heart Broken?

Question

(posted here to get a more mature response from women)
My boyfriend & I, of 4 years, are on the verge of breaking up and I feel like I am dying on the inside. Our major problem is that it seems we have become so accustom to eachother that we have lost the "us" in the casual day-to-day activities. We love eachother so much and don't want to give up, but it seems we are never happy... at least at the same time. How do you go about re-establishing a solid foundation in a relationship. Especially with our hectic schedules (both work and are full time college students) We, especially I, am not ready to throw in the towel! Any serious advice would be appreciated! Thanks...

Answer 1

well it sounds like you have a lot on your mind, and heart. First thing I would advise is to evaluate what you REALLY want out of this relationship. Are you two on the same page? Or have you gotten so used to being with each other that now it is more habit than love? If you really want to make it work, and he does too, than you two need to set aside some time to talk. I mean really lay everything out there, tell each other why you both feel unhappy with the relationship. Once you get everything out in the open, you will have a better idea of if the problem is fixable, or whether you just need to go your seperate ways. Trust me, from experience, I know that staying in an unhappy realtionship just leads to fighting and infidelity. You both need to understand each other and be happy to make it work. If not, you are just putting off the inevitable and things will only get worse. If you decide that you two have outgrown each other, the hardest part is actually making the decision to leave. After that it gets easier with time. Good luck!

Answer 2

You both really need to make the effort to communicate, and take time out of your schedule for eachother. When you start wandering in different directions, you are no longer working for the same goal and any relationship suffers because of that. Relationships were meant to have both people working together for the same purpose. 4 years is a decent investment. Avoid the day to day stuff, find something else to do that you can do together, not with other people, but just eachother. If you aren't ready to 'throw in the towel' then make the effort for eachother.
Hope things work out for you.

Answer 3

You won't be able to live without him. With or without him if you are leading a miserable life, let it be with him. No matter where you move on, you won't be happy loosing him. You will regret for it for the rest of your life.

I know how hard it is to maintain relationship with hectic schedule. Me and my BF are both working and students. But we keep our weekends totally for each other. Call him whenever and wherever we can. Involve in extra curriculars with him. I dont know how it goes on, but it feels good. Sometimes i feel so bad bcaz of our schedules. But then again i know at the end of the day what i have.

Dont leave him. Please.

Answer 4

hi Hun when we been with someone long time you get used to that person you no the bad points etc sex isn't like it used too but there is ways in changing things 1st do things together what you used to do the pictures going out for meals bowling etc then with sex try different things strip tease him get the strawberries and cream all your sex underwear this is just a bad patch we all through them who says they don't are most definitely lying

Answer 5

you can make friendship with me i too was heart broken but overcome with that sad period. cheers
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Answer 6

see it all depends on wat u want..for a while just try n be happy when hez happy..rty n sacrifice a bit till bth of u r completly back on track...then later let him kno wat u'v done to save the relationship....he'l be thankful n will consider ur happiness too...