what should i do???

Question

what should i do???

5th of aug
I have been with debbie for 5months i love her loads but me argue loads but wen we dont its great but when should i give up? i have been offered a job on a cruise ship but if i go it will be 6months at a time, we would be finished if i go, what should i do HELP

ALL WE DO NOW IS ARGUE BUT I AM SO SCARED OF BEING HURT, IN A WAY ITS NOT FAIR ME GOING BUT I WANT TO FOLLOW A DREAM, WE HAVE TALKED BUT I AINT REALLY SAID I AM GOING BUT SHE SAYS IF I DID WE WOULDNT STAY TOGETHER. IM WORRIED AND SCARED ABOUT BENG ALONE, IMAGINING HER WITH SOMEONE ELSE, WHAT CAN I DO? I AM SCARED :(

9th of aug
SHE IS HAS NOW TOLD ME SHE 1month pregnant, what should i do? stay of go? i am away for 6months, ppl are pregnant for 9, whould i go n live the dream and return to suport them both? if i dont do it now whaen will i? i do want the child, wana be a dad, but without a job i will not be able to provide, i will be saving £100per week n the cruise ship, it will help!

Answer 1

Im afraid of being alone too and I stuck a relationship because of that fear and i'll say one thing. The way you make it in your head and the fear is worse than the reality. If my boyfriend said he wanted to follow his dream and go I would let him and wait for him but I would be lying if I said I'd be happy for him to go but I'd never stop him. Another thing to think of is if she is pregnant and you go by the time you get back she will be 7 months pregnant. My son is 4 months old and what you need to ask yourself is do you want to miss the first time he/she kicks inside of her belly? The first time he/she hiccups? etc... It can also be a time that she may need the support. If I were you then I'd ask her to confirm her pregnancy i.e. a pregnancy test. If she's not go for it! If she is you have to ask yourself is what you miss really worth what you'd gain? You can't buy moment's. good luck in you decision. x

Answer 2

Well, you've now got an obligation towards the child she'll have so time to face up. Personally i'd tell you to saty at home, there are other jobs for the time being and be a responsible dad but we all deserve to follow our dreams and if it's meant to be between you and your girlfriend she'll understand this and still be there when you get back.

Answer 3

Take the job ... Seems to me she only told you she's pregnant as a possible end to a means - i.e. to keep you hanging around and not taking a job you really want!

If she's really pregnant and she loves you that much, she'll wait for you - and she'll keep in touch too. If you argue as much as you say you do though, I wouldn't hold my breath

Answer 4

first of all get her to do a pregnancy test in front of you so you can see the result for yourself as it sounds to me like shes trying to keep hold on you and stop you going if she refusers to do the test then shes lying to you about being pregnant if shes not preggy then dump her and follow your dreams this girl is not worth it.good luck .also just think of all the lovely girls you,ll meet on the cruise wish i was coming with ya lol i need a holiday.

Answer 5

fellow your dreams and be there for your child if she really loves you then she'll understand get the job so that you can take care of the baby and be a great dad

Answer 6

take the job get some money behind u to support her and the kid she will understand u wont be away forever

Answer 7

GO 4 IT IF SHE LOVES U SHE WILL UNDERSTAND IF U DONT THEN U COULD BLAME HER 4 THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

Answer 8

see if you can find a job at home your girlfriend will need you,if you go she might not want to know you,then you will not see your baby much...............