Im pregnant at 16 wat can i do?

Question

well im 16 and pregnant, unsure how far. Mah fiance n mah family support me, cept im livin at mah nan's house wit mah fiance. i know imma b fine but im still really scared i have no 1 to really talk 2 cuz mah fiance is wrapped up in his own lil fantasy world. if any one has any advice on wat i should do plz lemme know. i dun wanna kill mah baby i wanna keep it. every1 around me thinks its great but nun of them know how scared i am n i dun wanna bust mah fiance's fantasy bubble. i need help n sum 1 that understands wat im goin thru...help plz

Answer 1

You seem very sincere, I read your one answer too. I hope you can find someone to talk with. Ignore the nasty comments on Yahoo...those people are foolish. You may have made a mistake or you may have done the best thing you have ever done in your life...only you will ever know and only time will tell you.

My advise is find someone you respect, even if you don't know them well, and talk with them..maybe a teacher from school, a doctor, a friends Mom, maybe even someone from a church. Don't be to reliant on Yahoo Answers for something as important and life changing as this. Also rely mostly on your own judgement...you probably really know what to do already. May you have the best of luck and find the answers you need.

Answer 2

when i read this i was in total shock! how can u b scared 2 have a baby when u weren't scared 2 open ur legs like the 7 11? having a baby is not a joke. if ur fiance is in his own little fantasy world now, wait until you have the baby. you'll b lucky if he's even around 2 help u. u should open up 2 someone and let them know how scared u r. being scared could put stress on u and ur unborn child. u don't want that because u can really hurt the baby. all i can say is pray and if u can't talk to someone in the home, they do have teen pregnancy support groups out there.

Answer 3

My biggest concern for you is your English. If you are going to raise a child (I won't go into why you should not be having a baby everyone else has addressed that) you need a REAL education, a high school diploma, and a college degree. Why? Because that "fiance'" of yours isn't going to be there long. He probably doesn't even care you are pregnant. He's not going to support the child. . . you are. What you CAN do. Finish a formal education. Get your diploma and get a college degree if you can. You will need all of that to raise a child. Just bringing this child into the world costs $ 10-15,000.00 and if you don't have insurance everyone else in this country is paying for that child (and we are NOT HAPPY about that). You will need $ 180-250,000.00 to raise the child until 18 so you need a job, a GOOD job (which requires a GOOD education). You need to stop talking ghetto, stop acting ghetto, and stop expecting everyone else to take care of your loose morals. Your parents should have taken you over their knees and given you an education about keeping your sex to yourself so you wouldn't be in this situation.

If you don't want the responsibility of a child, put it up for adoption so a loving family can raise it and love it and teach it some ethics and morals.

Good luck. . . . you're going to need it.

Answer 4

people people people she can spell she is just talking like they do on msn chat. Examples people-ppl, you-u, thanks-thanx, my-mah, cause-cuz, please-plz, the list is never ending, so her spelling is fine just answer her question. Whether your 16 or 36 if you have the support of a partner and family you will be fine, remember it doesn't matter what other people say about how young or how old you are when you have children, that little person is yours and you enjoy them, you will be fine when you have your child you will experience a love you have never know and that child will sense it and it will bring you nothing but joy. Yes it will be hard at first but once you understand your child and learn what the cries mean you will do beautifully. I had a child at 18 he is now 16 and we are so close the bond is amazing because i did everything for him and didn't worry about what people say and loved him like nothing else. You enjoy your baby and your hubby to be and always keep contact with your family they are all that is important. GOOD LUCK...

Answer 5

Skye, based on the consistency of your misspellings (you could have been a proofreader for "Tom Sawyer" or "Huckleberry Finn"), I think you are a hoax. But I'll play along:
1. Get your "fiance's" Social Security number; you're going to need it for the child support enforcement people when he leaves you for somebody younger. (Note: Using "finance," or "feeahns" would have been more believable.
2. First time your "fiance" mouths off, mention "rape" (check state law) as I think that's what has been done here.
3. And if you are REAL, I agree with the previous suggestion: adoption; it's the best choice for you and the baby.

Answer 6

u will regret killing ur baby but have the baby and u will be thankful that u did nit kill the baby. Even if u don't know the baby yet u can still luv it like if it was born already. Don't kill the baby. And defentily don't give it up for adoption because u wil miss a great life for ur child. And also go back to school after the baby is born.

Answer 7

Talk to your doctor or look online--there are some help groups and people that you can talk to. You know that TLC channel on tv with the "A Baby Story" show? Go on their website, they have chat forums where you can meet people who are pregnant and are going through the same things as you. That's where I went when I was pregnant, and there were even some girls I met that were due the same day as me! Talking with them got me excited, and positive about the whole thing. This baby will be a blessing to you, but you have to love yourself if you're going to be a good mom! Make some friends. They are really nice there.

Answer 8

I have a two month old little girl. She is the love of my life. The Dad comes to see her as much as he can. I am raising our daughter on my own and it is so hard. I can't go to college because I can't afford daycare.

You really need to be mentally prepared for this kid. It is so much harder than you think and your fiance being in a "bubble" isn't a good idea... cause when the baby comes, all that stress hits at once. He needs to get a reality check fast.

Answer 9

By what you've written it looks like you're going through alot right now, but dont give up. I understand how scared you must be im also 16 and i would be terrified of the thought of being pregnant. Just imagine all the joy and happiness you're baby will bring you when it's born. There's always adoption if you can't support it.

Answer 10

i totally agree with snddupree your life as you know it is over, so get used to stress hard work dissappointment, fear, and of course true love. your fiance does not truly love you by the way u described him and i dont think you truly love him but you better truly love this baby and if you cannot give it the life it deserves, (which i am unsure of because i dont really know you) but it dosn't sound like your situation is good enough for a child, you should give the baby the life it deserves, the life you cannot give it.