What if he chased after you and chased after you and you finally fall in love with him. Then after almost a year he says he can't leave his kids and hurts you so bad. (After all I wouldn't have anything to do with him at first) It took a year and half to get over him so I finally moved on. Now he keeps calling to stay in touch so I thought of us as friends. Well we cut the talking and was not goin to talk anymore and then he calls and says by the end of the month he wants his life straightened out and he wants to spend his life with me because no matter how hard he trys he can not stop loving me. I don't know if I want to be with him anymore I am afraid of getting hurt again. (I was hurt really really bad) Please help what would you do??
2006-08-09 02:36:56 · 16 answers · asked by BC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I can give you the situation that I am in, I am 42 and I have been reunited with an ex girlfriend after 21 years. Back then I was shy and needed fine tuning. Guys realize that after a while they have missed a once in a life time opportunity. He may be genuine he may not because I don't know him. Go with your gut feeling and stay friends for a while to see where things lead, it will give you a sense as to whether or not he has gotten his life straight or is on the right path. Good luck.
Pete
2006-08-09 02:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Pete J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you probably did not make love, you had sex ! huge difference He cried, perchance from guilt, yet more effective probable because he became scared his spouse ought to make certain. of direction he did not spend the nighttime with you, that could take too a lot explaining away to his spouse of direction he seems at you longingly - you offered him sex on a plate and are satisfied to furnish him sex back . i do not accept as true with diverse the posts the following that call you a slag .... on one aspect he's the single contained in the relationship, you're literally not.. yet you're being naive and somewhat stupid in case you imagine this is going to get you everywhere..you're 31 years old, not a stupid youngster who would not comprehend any more effective constructive. And sure if he were satisfied in his marriage then he would not be chasing you, yet perchance he's the type who needs informal sex as and at the same time as he can locate someone to grant it to him.. if it wasn't you it should be some different person.. Have more effective understand for youself please. If not something else, do you extremely prefer to be with someone who can take care of his spouse that way... down the line it should be YOU he cheats on ! by your self sake and peace of innovations, ignore this loser and finally end up a respectable guy who's free to be with you. do not demean your self by technique of throwing your self at a guy, who isn't free to be with you and has advised you that certainly it turned right into a mistake and ought to not in any respect happen back.
2016-10-15 11:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by malinowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he 'can't leave his kids' - then it sounds like this guy may be married.
I know this is not the answer you might want to hear, but honestly, if he was chasing after you while he was married, then he will likely do the same thing to you if he cuts free of his wife and marries you.
History tends to repeat itself.
I'd kick him to the curb and find someone without all the baggage.
2006-08-09 02:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by quincysmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u still need advice?
Open ur eyes lady. that guy is bad for u. he knows u have not moved on with ur life so he intrudes on u when he so pleases. are u his rug?. It seems the reason u r asking this question is the fact that u enjoy this chap so much u really look forward to his coming back everytime he goes on his wild goose chase.
He has kids already, why do u expect him to leave his kids. they are "his kids" and from another woman, so he has responsibilities.
I would leave "him" for good and get my life started if i were u.
2006-08-09 02:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by lifejourney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he cant leave his kids.......sounds like that is either saying that he is married or lives far away from you. If he is married you need to stay clear and away from him.....even if he divorces her what is to say that he wont do the same to you in a few years. if its that he would have to move to be with you take it slow, make him prove his good intentions to you. but seriously...........if he is married and has been having a verbal affair and pursuing you for over a year........that doesn't say alot about his character. think about how his wife must or will feel. she probably has no idea. If you go with him that could be you in 5 years!!!
2006-08-09 02:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by ttazevert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me..i chose to discontinue cz i was hurt bad enough those 3 times. get goin with life, someone better is waiting for u out there.
good luck
2006-08-09 02:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't go backwards. move forward and into the future. leave the past behind. along with all of the hurt.
2006-08-09 02:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by gemone523 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. "It's called a breakup because its broken". Don't try anything else with him. If he has hurt you once he will probably do it again. No double dipping.
2006-08-09 03:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by bre 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will hurt you again, why we entertain them God knows, he doesnt sound right to me,stay moved on,have nothing to do with him. only take him back if you understand why he hurt you and if you can leave with it!
2006-08-09 02:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just take him then at least the wife won't be mad or wanted a divorce and hat is good and you can take him as you boyfriend and whatever he says just say something loving to him.
2006-08-09 02:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋