2006-08-09 02:31:43 · 16 answers · asked by bisaya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!! I think that is a major problem that needs to be addressed. The only good thing about it is that he is not cheating.
2006-08-09 02:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by ariola2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he prefers it over having sex with you no, it is not OK.
You have a very serious problem in your relationship or he would much prefer you.
If you are always telling him no, not feeling well, to tired, got a headache then this may have become his only option. Of course there is always the other option and that is cheating on you. You don't want that.
So ask yourself when this started and what changed in your relationship that may have triggered this. It will be difficult for you to be objective but try real hard to be. There is always a reason why we do things. Your job now is to find out what his is.
There is no way that a hand is better than a vagina, unless he believes it is his only option.
There is one more possibility. Sorry to say this but it could be he has lost attraction for you somehow. I hope not. How does he treat you outside the bedroom? Of course you could just ask him.
2006-08-09 02:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not okay for a husband to masturbate over having sex with his wife. If he does not want to have sex with you he has a reason. You need to ask why to him not strangers. Hopefully he will give you an honest answer.
2006-08-09 02:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is normal. But if he is doing it rather then wanting sex with you. YA there is a problem there. But if he is doing it because he cums fast then he could be doing it to help you at. So he can go longer Who knows I would ask. But if he is getting himself off, and then just going to sleep. And choosing that over having sex with you. I would be doing some major talking and fast.
2006-08-09 03:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by freebirdat2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not OK. It might be OK if he's pleasing you and giving you love, THEN in his private moments masturbates. But not as an alternative to having sex with you unless you don't want to have sex.
2006-08-09 03:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to masturbate, but if he is doing it without having you involved in some way I would ask him why. Maybe he feels you may not be in the mood, or he just has to have that feeling more times in a day than you are willing to up it. The only way you will know is if you ask.
2006-08-09 02:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally "NO" and not OK! Maybe yourself and your husband need to do some romance or seeing a porn movie, to get aroused by the movie or yourself. Make sure he get a full erection and yourself should guide him along. Yourself, don't behave like a piece of wood, be a little helpfull and "hot". Try it out, no harm! Good luck!
2006-08-09 21:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be ok once in a while when he when he looses the control over his fantacies. But not every time. The wife should cooperete with him and help him to indulge into a natural course.
2006-08-09 02:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Pie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's just a small load, so it's ok to do by hand. Or also sometimes the washing machine is under maintanence, we have to handwash. Big load then go for machine wash. Don''t worry, we will still need the washing machine.
2006-08-12 02:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Grace is a liar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ok at times when wife dees not feel of having s*x bcos of memses, tiredness, exasted and so on. But if it is just to show of -not care about your being and sefl sifficiency in sex, then it is really problem to address seriously by both of involved.
2006-08-09 02:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by guess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋