I am in kuwait and am staying with my wife, bcos of her figure I am not attracted sexually towards her. I always wanted a slim, fair, average hieght and busty gal to enjoy sex with. who would concentrate on maintaining her figure & be a loving home maker, education is no restriction. I Wonder to have second relationship as I dont wont to leave my first wife, I love her the only problem is her figure which she is not ready to work hard and shape good. Not to mention bcos of this problem we have sex hardly once or twice in a month or two. The very purpose of her keeping with me even spending huge to keep her with me. I dont know what to do?
2006-08-09 02:11:13 · 14 answers · asked by sonimurtaza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when you love someone you love them unconditionally. that means you take them however they are. what should be more important to you is what's in your heart and who she is on the inside. you should not have married her solely based on her figure. that is not fair to either of you. stop being so selfish and ignorant.
2006-08-09 02:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasnt what you wanted in the first place then why did you marry her.Yes we all want gorgeous,sexy and thin.But is that what is going to really satisfy you,ya maybe sexually but take a look at some other qualities,there had to be something else that made you marry this woman,so many times we concentrate only on the sexual part of a relationship and forget the real reasons for love.If you really love her have you thought about helping her to get back in shape even if it is just a little at a time,do it together,be her coach and the reward will then be for both of you as a team,oh and it dont take tons of money to have someone love you,love is free,you are sending the wrong message when you buy her love,if you have to do this to keep her the buddy it will not work and the most important thing is obviously missing
2006-08-09 02:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of all of it bull****. My husband and that i've got been at the same time considering the fact that i replaced into 17, we been at the same time for 12 years and married a million. Do all adult males examine from the comparable manuel. each and everything you're dealing with, I been there too. the only difference replaced into, the cheating and thinking the way it replaced into to be with different women like his friends have been doing all got here approximately in the process the quicker years of our relationship. i'm a plus length female who's has each and each of the curves interior the main dazzling spot and that's what turns my husband on the main, yet he too advised me how different women did no longer look greater helpful then me, they weren' t greater helpful in mattress, they have been basically there. My husband knows that there is not any longer something accessible and that he could on no account do something to lose his family members yet he does the pornos and internet. finding at photos of bare women. I hate that with a keenness yet I quess its alot greater helpful then rather being with yet another woman.
2016-12-11 10:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by kleid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many get married without taking all the steps and thoughts to mind. You fall in love and you marry not realizing maybe shes not attractive in you eyes or physically make you want her. I met so many that jumped to marry then realized just maybe they are not what they were really looking for. I think you need to talk to you wife and explain how you feel and you will help and support her also maybe she can wear more sexy clothes to make her sexier in your eyes try new things and see what happens you will truly break her heart if you cheat on her its wrong love her for her cuz she loves you for being you.
2006-08-09 02:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you offer money and/or "gifts", you should have no problem getting a woman on the side. Consider using a high class escort.
Paying for it is more honest, sets clear boundaries, and atleast you won't have the emotional messes of actually having a "real" second relationship.
2006-08-09 02:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal Opinion... If you truly love someone you will love them no matter what and never have second thoughts about anyone else but that other person.
With that being said.... A. you dont sound happy B. you arent getting your satifaction that everyone does deserve.
So...you shouldnt stay with someone you 'feel' it with anymore. Its just lust (love). Not true love.
Everyone is scared to be alone but sometimes we have to make choice to better ourselves and our enviroment.
2006-08-09 02:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me myself personally don't think that you should do it just say that she really loves you and if she was to do you like that what would you say becuz you should never leave the one you love 4 the one u like cuz the one u like will leave you 4 the one they love and you will be left with no one and will then realize that the one u left was the one but it to late now
2006-08-09 02:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by princezzpurple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the real meaning of marriage explained to you Mister.
What would you do if you find out your wife thinks the same about you?
2006-08-09 02:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Masked Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convince her that you love her (if u really do?) and tell you do not want to f*** up your married life just because of her being out of figure. if she senses bitterness on being fat, she shall and try to bein goog figure.
But if you lie to yourself and do not love her anymore ... and seek pleasure out side of wed-lock ... then you are head for troubles.
2006-08-09 02:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by guess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a mistress man or a whore...those are always winners.
2006-08-09 02:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by jmthomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋