We found my aunt dead on Xmas eve just gone... And I still cant help the crying... there usually isn't any reason for it, other than the fact that i miss her!
2006-08-09 02:10:22 · 16 answers · asked by ambafox 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my favourite auntie over a year ago & I still miss her like crazy. There is no time limit on moarning, but if you are still feeloing weepy about it ikn a few months, perhaps you should see your doctor.
Chin up & good luck
2006-08-09 02:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by wordykat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may at times cry when you think of her the rest of you life - that is normal.
Be very careful of psychologists - they tell people that if you are still mourning the loss of a loved one after two months you need to be put on medication!! The only time I would tell anyone to seek professional help is if they are considering suicide, but even then a good friend is much better.
People are different and handle pain differently. There is no set amount of time for mourning. Don't put arbitrary time limits on yourself, or let others tell you there is something wrong with you.
Blessings
2006-08-09 02:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss.
When my wife died 1998, the spontaneous crying lasted for several months but I grieved for an entire year and I was in mourning for 5 years before I could go back to trying to live...
To this day, nearly 8 years later, I still miss her and think of her every day... so I don't know what to tell you. I think it's different for everyone. Eventually, you DO get back to normal.... sort of.!
2006-08-09 02:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no time limit to the mourning process. People cope in different ways. Sounds like you were close. However uncontrolled crying can also be a sign of depression, especially if nothing apparent triggers the mood.
2006-08-09 02:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a reasonable question and both easy and difficult to answer.
I think it's very individual.
Everybodie's different.
For me, eventually the crying stops and ever so slowly it get's easier but in many ways it really never goes away.
Fortunately, with time, it ever so slowly changes and fades.
Hopefully you know what a childrens toy called a "top" is. It's shaped like an upside down "Hersey's candy Kiss" and has a handle you pump the hell out of to make the top spin. Than it bolts across the floor in all directions until it runs out of juice. Anyway,..
Picture that spinning top as something that all the things that hurt us could be stuck too,
Things like a long time relationship sudden and unexpectedly broken off by a loved one,.. a pet's dying, or worse, a loved one's dying,
Anything traumatizing,and unbareable and capable of destroying us
I believe our own sense of self presevation evenually steps in to help protect us by sticking these devastating memories on that spinning top.
As the top spins, sad, heart wrenching memories spin with it and it becomes impossible for us to hold that memory as it spins and so they begin to fade.
They don't go away, they're there.,
It's just that the top spins so fast our minds only get to glimpse them and fortunately the memory, spins by to quickly to devastate us all over again.
But they never go away, in fact our memories are always with us and we are reminded of them everytime the tops spinning passes them through our minds.
Every so often the spinning runs out of energy and stops.
When this happens sad and faded memories come on strong, like they just happened yesterday causing sadness and possibly even spontaneous crying.
It's the act of sadness that repowers spinning to the top.
With renewed strength the spinning begins again taking painful memories with it once again.
Until next time.
How much time?
Only God knows.
Hope you even got to understand what I've said.
I've come to view my memory as spinning top
2006-08-09 18:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by thomnjo2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's OK to grieve but only for a moment or sometime.. i can understand what you feel. but what i read in the book the steps are 1-DENIAL... try to accept the fact that she's gone she is resting no and never suffer again 2-moving on go on w/ your usual life, for sure she will not be happy to see you being stranded.. move on and just be thankful that even for sometime you shared time and you felt her care and love..
OK? don't be so depressed. be strong
2006-08-09 02:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by destroyed_11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a few months to get over my father's death. I couldn't eat well, and lost a lot of weight. The same thing when my sister was killed. I lost a lot of weight then too. The crying would start any time I had to talk about it.
2006-08-09 02:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a good healer, But it takes longer for some people. I bet you got a really big heart and you love to see the good in people and your not affraid to show your emotions. It seems to take longer for sensitive people, i still well up when i think about my grandad and he passed away 5 yrs ago.
Sending you my love.x.x.x.x.x.x.x.x
2006-08-09 02:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will stop eventually. You just got to look on the positive side, im sure your Aunt wouldnt want you to be sad the whole time. Im sure its very difficult for you to try and get through. Best of luck and Im sorry for your loss.
Just give it time. :)
2006-08-09 02:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by dancingqueen6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it ever does. Sorry to not be very helpful. I don't want to get into too much personal stuff on here, but these feelings can last a long time.
2006-08-09 02:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋