Since I saw him we talked about it and I told him that it upset me, I have since caught him a couple more times and found evidence that he does it regularly. It's making me feel a bit inadequate, is this a normal thing for men to do? We have been married for 6 years and have a baby
2006-08-09 02:03:55 · 28 answers · asked by richlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some guys enjoy porn more then others. Don't forget, women and men are not hard wired the same in some areas. His like for porn, and your dislike for him looking at it created a wedge in the bedroom. Wedges like that are like concrete. The longer you let them set, the harder they become.
I have an idea. If you are comfortable with it, why don't you try joining your husband with his hobby. He may resist at first, but if you ask him to join you while you "enjoy" some porn, it may be something you can do together once and a while to get your bedroom relationship going again. Don't look at it as you are a porn fan, look at it as it arouses your husband and you want to share and enjoy that arousal. I hope the idea helps.
2006-08-09 02:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess most men look at porn.
The difference in your situation is that you have found out spoke to your husband and he is still doing it.
You really have to try an not react because he could be getting a kick out of it what might be an idea is for you to get some porn and hide it around the house where he can find it but not to easily,
but remember when you catch him don't give him a reaction.
Dress up sexy and masturbate whilst watching some porn,when he see's you getting your rocks off over another guy,he will soon change his tune.
2006-08-09 09:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Speaking as a guy & someone that's got previous experience in that area, It's true there is a chance he does not find you attractive like before, but he will have love for you, speak to him, it is normal for a red blooded man to look at porn & masturbate, my ex says; rather cheat on your own than with another woman. (behind her back). Me & my ex are still best friends (with 2 kids) because we have always told the truth, no matter how much it hurts!
2006-08-09 09:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. Do not feel inadequate, he is merely playing out a fantasy. Trust me, you really don't want to be a part of that fantasy in real life so it is better that you just allow him to flog the dolphin to porn. He still loves you.
2006-08-09 09:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by jmthomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things...
A. Men are horny dogs. They will do almost anything to get off. That is watching porn. In this day and age its become more and more normal. Just let him do what he wants and try to keep him satisfied in bed.
B. The intrest is lost. Its up to you to try and rekindal it. Go buy a book, watch porn together, dress up, tease, just do anything.
Trust me down that road and I had to spark the flame back up and its been amazing now!
2006-08-09 09:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not entirely. Men look at porn because they think that is the only way to get satisfaction. You have to remind him that he is married and has a kid. If you are married and are looking at porn on the net, that is almost like cheating.
2006-08-09 09:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Maverick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He`s obviously addicted,and needs help.I dont think wearing sexy underwear etc gonna help.Beyond that.Tell him You want the computer confiscated,and to get a life.Not all men are sad porn kings,ruled by their kn**s.He wont ever be satisfied.Where will it end ? Tell him You want relationship to work out,that You love him,but if Your not good enough after You`ve met him halfway-get rid.
2006-08-09 09:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he getting sex at home? Is it that you have stopped or did he stop ? there might be a clue in there somewhere. Or maybe he feels that he is not getting it the way would like to? talk about it and you might be surprised by the answers you get. Just do not be judgemental.
tell him how it makes you feel.try and see why he watches. A lot of the time it is just harmless.It depends on your attitude towards sex. My wifes motto is " I do not care where you get your appetite from as long as you eat at home" That is fair enough for me.
2006-08-09 09:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say it but yup, men look at porn, even the married ones.
its nothing to be upset about and can be used to improve your sex life if you or he felt it was going a bit stale. You need to talk to him and ask him why he feels he needs to look at porn but don't be too harsh, it may just be a phase brought on by him becoming a new father. talk through your problems and try to listen to him.
2006-08-09 09:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by steve-o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong in just seeing some pictures until unless ur husband cheats u going with other women and it will be more usefull for ur sexual life, he can participate more frequently in sex with u.
may i ask u one thing did u not imagine other men when ur mating with ur husband?
it is quite natural and i further suggest u both of u browse the net for such pics and enjoy ur sex life do not see him like a culprit
2006-08-09 09:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋