Do brunettes really hate blondes?

Question

I've known many brunettes (former girlfriends included) who seem to have a irrational dislike of blondes. It seems a bit unfair, and kind of racist towards the scandinavian countries (where most people are blonde).
Do any of you hate blondes? And is this hatred based on jealousy?

Answer 1

I think this is an interesting question.

I don't think this is racism, since for example it is not just Scandinavian countries who have blondes, but many other parts if the world, for example UK, America, Australia etc.

Then of course there are millions of women who bleach their hair, some of whom achieve a natural look.

My view on this is that it has to do with ideals.

For millions of men, the ideal woman is blonde.

So it is not just European brunettes (like me) who feel this stereotype, but black and Asian women who feel it too - but again, I don't think it is exactly racism.

Perhaps it is envy. Most people would like to be thought of as the ideal type. I guess this kind of thing effects men too if they are not "tall, dark and handsome".

I know that not ALL men prefer blondes - though there are many sayings, eg "Gentlemen prefer blondes" and examples in the media that indicate that a large number of men do. There is a mystique around blondes. One example is most Hitchcock films.

When I was a teenager I was curious about this and remember reading an advert in a women's magazine that said "You have one life - why not live it as a blonde?" I bleached my hair blonde, and it did seem to double the amount of attention I received from men. And I already received quite a lot, as I am slim and attractive.

So I guess what I'm saying here is that if it is true that many brunettes dislike blondes, it is not an irrational dislike. It is in fact quite rational!

Sadly, in most cultures, women are judged first on their appearance. And women are unconsciously incompetition with each other for the best men. I am not condoning this, but I think it is natural.

I wonder if your girlfriends might be afraid you prefer blondes and that is why they seem to dislike them? If so, this would be their insecurity. They don't want to lose you!

So to answer your question, no, I don't hate blondes. But I do notice that a lot of men go weak at the knees at the sight of a blonde, and yes, to be honest, I am sometimes jealous. It can feel a bit unfair, if I've spent ages getting ready to go out, and other men look admiringly at me, to have my boyfriend stoop listening to what I'm saying while a blonde goes past!!

Perhaps men are more irrational than women in the way some of them react to a blonde?

Ultimately, I know that while a man might look admiringly at a blonde, most men will choose as their partner a woman who is atttractive but who has a great personality as well, and beauty, no matter what colour the hair is, is only skin deep.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I have a rather close friend who is brunette, but is friends with three blonde people. Anyone can hate anyone, regardless of hair color.

Answer 4

I am a brunette and I have a best friend that is sorta blonde. So obviously I don't hate them. Sure I will poke some fun at them once in a while just to bug my friend... because I have a shirt that says "I had a nightmare I was blonde". But I don't really give in to those stereotypes.... So this brunette doesn't hate blondes! (to answer your question!) =)

Answer 5

I'm a proud brunette & have never had an issues with other women with different hair colour, specially blondes. It's all a matter of jealousy, which indeed is of insecurities & low self esteem. When one doesn't feel good about themselves, they turn that anger towards someone that they wish to be or look like. They might not even know the person & they have anger towards them do to their lack of selfworth. If one is secure with themselves as a person & who they are as a woman, then you can be sure that they have no issues towards blondes or any other hair coloured woman.

Answer 6

I'm a brunette (naturally), but I dye my hair red, it's also been blonde, black and light brown. I haven't noticed people react differently to me when I was blonde to how they do now, I did however notice a major change in the way I was spoken to, when my hair was black, it was as though people were scared of me, a bit weird actually as I'm so lovely. :)
I don't hate blondes at all, it depends on the person, not the hair colour.

Answer 7

No. What a stupid trait to hate someone over. I've never based my opinion about someone on their hair (or skin) color. I'm a brunette, it's the best hair color for me, and I've known some very intelligent and articulate blondes.

Answer 8

Perhaps it was your reaction to the blondes that they hated? Or perhaps they simply get annoyed by the blondes that play the bonde card, you know...act ditzy and air headed when they aren't. My little sister was a blonde, and she did that all the time, it annoyed the crap out of me. She was so smart, and would always turn on the ditz when there were guys around. *shaking my head*

Not all blondes do it, but it is the ones that act dumber than they are that I dislike being around.

Answer 9

i dislike alot of blonde women a whole bunch, but i could never say that i acctually hated them......the fact that alot of people i dislike are blonde, has nothing to do whatsoever with their hair colour.....its a conicidence. Usually it has more to do with the way they have treated others that i know and with disdain and dislike. And more often than not they are disrespected by these 'blonde' people due to the way they look and act. This is a disrespectful way to treat others regardless of what they look like and no one should be treated this way......
You are no better than someone else because you think you look better than they do.

Answer 10

it's a very stereotypic way to look at things. i personally don't hate people because of the color of their hair. but i think that this kind of racism, as you put it, is based on jealousy because blondes are considered, in a very generalizatng opinion, easier and more fun whereas brunettes are considered more seriouse. plus being a blonde is a sign of high fertility and men are more drawn to blondes for reproduction, this is ofcourse subconsciouse and as such is an animal instinct, for preservation of the species. but yes this kind of hate does exist but not all people actually think that way, thank god!!!