Does the male menopause exist?

Question

I think my husband is going through some sort of change. He is 45 and is slowly turning into a grumpy old man and a control freak. He has developed man boobs and a beer gut within a matter of weeks. We argue constantley and I am begining to fall out of love with him. He will chat up young women in front of me and usually come out with some crude comment which is totally embarrashing
for them and me. Are there any other women out there who have experienced the same. We have been together for 15 years. Of which 13 have been brilliant.

Answer 1

It sounds more like he's stuck in a rut and a bit low/depressed + frustrated as opposed anything like a male menopause. The exact same thing happened to me in my early 20's and it was simply because I hated a lot of things in life + felt trapped and restricted in the relationship I was in (certainly wasn't male menopause at that age). I just felt like being an **** because I could and didn't give a toss any more.

I'm not saying you should split up or anything half as drastic, but if you're one of these couples that see each other most of the non-working day, or do everything with each other you may want to try doing your own things for a bit a few hours a week.

It's hard to explain, but I think that the Male menopause label is an easy excuse to blame it on and won't help get things good again. If you want to know any more feel free to drop me a mail.

Answer 2

Mid-life crisis at its finest! Many men go through it and it's not a pretty sight. Have your husband schedule a complete physical (the man boobs and beer gut may be a result of his producing less testosterone than he needs) to rule out any problems. Also have his talk to the doctor about his mood changes (grumpy, control freak, etc).

Make sure hubby is on a good diet (lean protein, whole grains, fruits & vegetables) and gets plenty of exercise. Walk daily with him!

Also, some marriage counseling may help you to regain the "brilliance" in your relationship.

Answer 3

Of course it does,you only have to look around at the 40 somethings trying to look and act 18 again.My ex husband went into it and never came out of the other side.He is 56 now and still flirts with anything in a skirt,still drags the thinning hair over his bald patch and wears too young and too tight clothes.I`m glad to say he`ll probably die a lonely old man,cause he no ones sugar- daddy.I had been married to him for 24yrs and divorce saved me and I got my life back.This option may not suit you as it`s a very difficult decision to make after a lot of years with the same person,but I think that`s why they think they can get away with it.GOOD LUCK.

Answer 4

I think he is going through the female equivalent yes, and yes, I have been through it with my husband, he went through it a bit, but my ex husband went through it when he was just 32, hence to say I didn't stay with my ex, me an my 2nd husband have been together 15 years now and are very happy, he went through his bad patch, but I threatened to leave him after many an argument etc.. he fortunately came to his senses and changed back, I think its just a male thing, they seem to get to a certain age and feel like they are not attractive to the opposite sex anymore, and they have to prove it some how, if they don't get the response they desire, they become insulting. I am sure your husband will return to his usual self before long, just keep reminding him you are there, and that you love him, even if you feel you are falling out of love with him, but tell him that too, tell him if he doesn't change you will leave him, if he loves you he wont let you go. Go luck with it.

Answer 5

Yes it exists, it just isnt given the credibility that the female version is given.
From what youve said it sounds like he has had enough of the marriage and is trying to pull other girls in front of you, he just couldnt care less what you think.
PS Nobody develops man-boobs in weeks, it takes months or years, either you havent been looking or youre being hyper-critical all of a sudden.

Answer 6

Male menopause---mid-life crisis....whatever you want to call it, it's not nice. My husband didn't devloped breasts, but he got some new bad habits that I don't like either. Sometimes, I feel like running away or shotting him. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy. We had been married for 24 years when this struck us, had maybe 3 fights in those years. We are lucky if we only have 3 a day. Mine bought a motorcycle instead of the sports car most men do. He got tattooed, started hanging out with all this new "friends". Didn't have any time for me or the kids. Stayed out all night with all calling. If he had been one of the kids, I would gave them a good spanking and grounded them for the rest of their lives. WE have survived! I am going to lie and say that it was easy. I have nearly packed my bags several times. But, he's back almost to the man I married. He spends more time at home, and with his family. I told him during all of this I still loved him, but I didn't like him. I am not as in love with him as I once was, because all the pain that he caused, I know I can live without him, I can survive by myself, I don't need him. I still love him, and I want to be with him, but before all of this-I thought I would die if something happen between us, so one good thing that this experience as taught me is that I don't need him. And I needed that. So some good did come out of all the tears, screaming, and worrying. Praying for you to come out of this with something other than scars, dried tears, and a broken heart. You can survive with him or without him. It's up to you how much you can handle and how long you can hold out. I thought several times that I was going to have a nervous breakdown, but I made it! and you can too! If it gets to that point where you can do it anymore, leave--your mental and physical health is very important. I finally told mine if things didn't change I was out of there, he straightened up fast, but I had myself mentally prepared that if he said "go" that I was ready. So, take some advice from someone who's been there done that, take care of you first! Ask him if he would go see a doctor,because they can help with the changes, with meds and it wouldn't hurt you to have a check-up also. It's rough, and I pray that you don't let this ruin you. Please take care, and hold on tight the road gets bumpier before it gets smooth. God bless us all........

Answer 7

Nope, no euterus, no menopause. Men just like women have changing levels of hormones in their system that alter their behavior and appearance over the years but nothing so sever as the changes a woman goes through when her reproductive cycles terminate.

Answer 8

definite.........basically kidding there is not any such ingredient as male menopause, it in hassle-free terms happens with women folk of their previous due ranges, if a male had menopause it may be completely unnatural so do no longer situation.

Answer 9

when men reach their 50s their male hormones decline and they get pot bellies because the hormones are not there to build/keep the muscles strong especially on the belly. Their hair thins and recedes and they get man boobs. Usually the bad moods are due to their unhappy career/jobs and lack of money and lack of appreciation from their family and wife..

Answer 10

You can only correct him with your lovely behaviour , no arguments , no nagging , start morning walk together , cook good food and serve him by becoming good host , be pleasant around him , he will certainly start making you happy again , you must have patience.