my husband and i never fight. we quietly dislike each other. i don't know if i can keep this up for much longer
2006-08-09 01:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by amymarie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
yes -as long as you keep it between the two of you and don't involve the kids it can work
2006-08-09 02:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by kids 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your children know there is trouble. Why people think staying together for the children is best for them, doesn't realize they are hurting them more. It also imprints on them, what type of relationship they should have. Look at all the women that stay in an abusive relationship, because it happened to their Mother, so it must be right. Any type of abuse is wrong, and what's worse is the person going through it not leaving.
You are a human being, if you want your Children to live a safe life get the hell out of it.
2006-08-09 09:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are your childern? They probably sense that there is something is wrong. Staying together for the childern will only drive you insane. Have you tried to see a marriage counsler? It couldn't hurt. Do you still love your husband? If you do then try to save your marriage.
If you both have grown apart or found someone else to be with then its time to part. I am sorry for your problems, marriage is not easy, it takes work each and everyday. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 09:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by KIM A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? Children can see tension in their parents. It's never a good idea just to stay together for the children. They will get over/used to whatever you tell them is going on. Yes, you have to sacrifice for your children, but this is not the area to do it. Children need healty parents, and that includes mental health.
2006-08-09 09:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why touchier yourself and live in miseries. You can love someone, but at the same time not be in love with them for the kids sake. It is better to split when the kids are still small then wait till they become teens.
This is just my opion.
2006-08-09 09:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by g3010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried it...Biggest mistake of my life. Should have taken my kids when they were small and run like hell. My x is USELESS, in fact she's responsible for my (and hers) youngest grandchild's death. She was 16 months old and drowned in the backyard pool two weeks ago because the x couldn't be bothered to keep her safe.
Sorry, to get back to you, kids are SMART..they'll figure out that you two aren't happy and they'll blame themselves. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-09 09:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think so..im not married or anything, but by my parents I would have to say no. I f you dont like something, you are gonna keep disagreeing no matter what!You can hurt thge kids more, if they find out that yall really dont love each other(stabd each other, etc.)
2006-08-09 09:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's healthy. Maybe you think your kids will benefit but they will see that eventually you are unhappy. It's just the way it works. I have been there. But I did get out and am now married very happily to a wonderful man, who loves me and my kids. Good luck to you.
2006-08-09 09:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Phyllis D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will end up losing your sanity. Maybe your children wouldn't mind if you left. Maybe it would actually be BETTER for them because you would be happier, in effect, making their lives happier.
It is impossible to love unless one loves their self. This applies to many areas of life.
2006-08-09 09:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you are doing this for your children it is not healthy. They will catch on eventually. And then your unhappiness will become theirs. Sorry, there is no good way around it.
2006-08-09 09:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough call
how old are the children?
can you try marraige counseling?
get some help from counseling
just try it
good luck
2006-08-09 08:58:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋