help i need a shelter?

Question

i have been living with my fiance for 2 yrs...last night was the last straw, he has been abusive verbally, mentally, and physically (pushed me down many times, held me down, and slapped me once). the names and insults and put downs caused me to attempt suicide last night, i guess you call it that, i took 15 over the counter sleeping pills, when i showed him the empty box he left me. he says the cruelest things to me and he may be looking at jail time for a dui and last week he got 5 more tickets, i do not have any children with him, told me i was the worst thing to ever happen to him and he always said the best i even put a truck in MY name for HIM, I i have no family or really any friends, i need to take myself and my 2 children to a shelter, i have a full time job, will they let me stay? even my 16 yr old son has a job, will they turn us away? i have 2 vehicles in my name ( i need to sell one) will they turn me away, i need help, i want to die due to this man, i live in alabama.

Answer 1

oh dear sweetie the first thing you need to worry about is your safety and the safety of those children...get out before it turns bad please...now second once your out of the house then you reach your cell phone or go to a payphone and dial 211-that would be your resource center..you tell them your situation and they will help you with everything....also provide assistance with shelters..trust me i have used them from time to time and they have always been there...ask them about a battered women shelter...i know its the last place you would rather be is cramped up with a lot of other women, but its better than your last place being in a coffin...the shelters love when you have a job because they feel better about yourself starting your life over...they might have some rules and regulations about curfews,but honey its better than staying and facing the abuse....please call 211 and ask for help...i believe god sent me to you this morning because i was attracted to answers this morning...he is watching over you and please make the right choice and get out...nothing is more precious in life than your life and the lives of your children...take care and visit my 360 page if you want to chat-i want to know how things go

Answer 2

first of all, contact your local police dept, they will assist you in a womens shelter for you and your children, most of the women shelters are not listed in the phone books and if they are they will not have an address for they are considered safe houses, to protect you from the male. Girl I have been there, get your **** and leave they wiill not turn you down, Inform your boss of your situation and possibly t ake a leave, so the bastard can not find you at the time. Whatever family you do have contact them, when I went through this my family and I were not even speaking, but I needed help and they were the ones that I called and helped me pick up the pieces that I had made.. Most families are good like that. Whatever you do, do not stay there it is bad.. Everything he tells you is a lie, I know that it is hard to understand that right now, but they are all LIES........ I always believed it too, you will because he has beat you down so many times.. But the number one rule I live by is this:" God will never give you more than you can handle..".... Oh and That I AM ME, AND I AM OKAY!!!! I am one of kind and if the bastard does not like then get lost... Stay strong, hold your head up and think of your children, you do not want them to be treated this way do you?????? HELL NO!!!!!!! Do not do anything stupid, either.. This will pass in due time, it tkes time to heal or wounds. It will only make you a stronger person..... Believe in yourself and your children, they do not want to live that way..

Answer 3

Where do you live in Alabama? I'm not from there (I'm from Georgia) but my old music minister is from Alabama...maybe he could come up with some ideas. You REALLY need to get away from this guy. Do you go to church? If you do, maybe you can talk to your pastor or sister in the church. If not, you might want to call your local YMCA...they normally are affiliated with battered women's shelters. I wish you the best of luck and if I can be any help, just email me.

Answer 4

Obviously you know you need to get away from this man. You can call information to find the nearest women's shelter. They may be able to find other resources for you to get the help you need there, such as a restraining order or counseling. The shelter in my city does not turn people away because of income. It is a safe haven from the abuser. Men are not even allowed in the facility. Because of this, you may want to call ahead and ask about your son because of his age. They may be able to make arrangements for him as well. Whatever you do though, please please get help.

Answer 5

If you can't find a shelter rent a motel room. Just get the heck out of there. Good luck and God bless you and your kids.

Answer 6

I don't think any shelter would ever turn you away. You need to go now. I hope it all works out for you. Go honey, be safe.

Answer 7

You should of called the police on him and told them they better come and get him. Kick his *** out, get a RO on him, file a report with the police. Why should you have to leave, there are ways to get him out and keep him out.

Answer 8

try you local battered women's shelter, the united way, or the red cross. if they cannot help you i'm sure they can point you in the right direction. good luck.

Answer 9

go to your church if you go to church or got to the local hospital or police dept, they can point you in the right direction
good luck to you and your children, if you need further help please email me at [e-mail]

Answer 10

CALL THE Y.W.C.A. THEY HAVE A ROTECTION CENTER,AND GET AN ORDER OF PROTECTION.NOW