When im getting down and dirty with my bf, it hurts when he tries to ener me. i am comfortable and wet enough. is it wrong to use other things to "widen me up" so he can fit snugly? e.g dildo. obviously while he theres too!! or should i just try and bear the pain without "widening me up". sensible answers please. no sarcastic remarks thanks x
2006-08-09 01:47:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Either he is just enormous(doubt it) or your the tightest girl ever(doubt it). You need to lube up more! And tell him to slow down! For example he should try to enter you a few times. Maybe just the head first, then half, then the rest.
2006-08-09 01:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gregg H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain is your body telling you that something is wrong. This is a great example of size matters and big is not necessarily better.
It could be that a lot more foreplay is required for you to naturally widen.
I would never try to widen myself up for him simultaneously. It is possible for you to tear your vagina, and rips between the rectum and vagina have their obvious problems.
I would buy a good vaginal lubricant like KY and use plenty of it. If you are still uncomfortable then I'd downsize my boyfriend, cuz if he ain't a body mate he can't be a soul mate. Plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-08-09 09:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by chillsister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband used the "finger" method to widen. Lubricate one, two then 3 (not necessarily in the same session). It is stimulating as well as widening - and a lot less expensive than toys.
My second husband introduced me to toys. Not much is wrong in this arena unless it hurts, or can hurt in the long run.
Enjoy.
2006-08-09 08:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that at all.. I don't think you should EVER just bear the pain.. that's going to make for a bad association when you do have sex with him, and when you have sex you should love it.. not grin and bear it...
Use whatever means necessary to make sex pleasurable to you.. I also think you should see a doctor.. the causes of pain during sex are A LOT more than just not having a big enough opening.
2006-08-09 08:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you are most comfortable. However, before trying anything new I would recomend seeing your doctor just to be sure there is nothing else going on down there that could be contributing to your pain.
2006-08-09 08:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see a urologist You could have a urethral diverticulitis. I is common and most don't even know that have it. It will make it painful for sex.
It is nothing to have it removed. It is a little bubble on the urethra and they just go in a remove it.
2006-08-09 08:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to relax your too tense. experiment with things and positions and find one your both comfortable with. If its still painful once you have tried a few things go and see your doctor
2006-08-09 10:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by slushlush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better not to try to use anything to widen. It may hurt you physically.
2006-08-09 08:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about he take the time to slip into you slowly instead of being in such a damn rush to jam that thing into you.
Taking your time while having sex makes it all the more exciting!
2006-08-09 08:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep experimenting until you find something that works for you both... after all, experimenting's usually good fun. Treat things light heartedly, make it fun and be open with your boyfriend.
2006-08-09 08:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by ralphseviltwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋