my boyfriend & i were talking about names we would give our kids in the future, i suggested 1 name which is my x-boyfriends. i said to him i like the name not the person, he then said ok ...(name) (his x-galfriends name) i was so angry since he called me her name and i didnt, i only suggested what names i liked. he doesnt understand why im angry as he says i mentioned my X's name as well. do you think i have the right to get angry or is he right? he's also trying to justify wat he's done by saying that i also called my x in my sleep & i told him that i have no control over that.
2006-08-09 01:46:13 · 28 answers · asked by fly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah both of u did things that u shouldnt have.why no matter how good u think the name is if its ur ex name its not a wise choice. so yeah so kind of u started it and he got mad and did the same.so you both need to drop this fight and make up.apologize and say it was wrong to say that and he should then do the same.dont make a big problem out of this and deal with it.good luck
2006-08-09 01:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by SLICK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you 2 have unresolved issues of the past even if its in the subconsious level. Which is the inner sanctum of the soul. You are thinking of the future when the NOW is clouded with the past. Clear up the past. Live in the present happily as two distinct individual without the bondage of the past then think of the future. Seriously you guys are thinking of naming kids, have you guys done much thinking about the role of Father & Mother. The role of Husband and of wife ? What is a wife ? What is a husband ? How about finances ? Wedding is the graduation ceremony to coursthip. Real Job begins after that.
2006-08-09 02:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look we have all done that at some time in our life's, his ex and your ex are not the only people in the world with the names they have, are you going to go round hating people with either of your ex's names for the rest of your days, just let it pass and stop worrying so much about the ex's and concentrate on the now, make up and apologise and then you can get on with what could be a beautiful relationship, good luck.
2006-08-09 01:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oOo...burn!! Just kidding. Ummm.... He CALLED you his ex's name, or just said it like you said your ex's name. I think you mean that he called you her name and thats really no good. How long have you two been together. A recent break up can cause a guy's memory to lapse about which girl he is talking to. But still..thats really not good. Don't be pissed at him if you want to stay together. Just talk to him and tell him that you don't like being called an ex's name. You're different than her, in many ways better than her because you have the guy now. And for a while, avoid the baby-naming. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-08-09 01:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like there is a trust issue going on..i have been happily married for 9 years to the love of my life and he has slipped on an occasion...it didnt bother me cause i know he is with me..now its totally different if you guys are argueing and then start comparing each other to the ex's...you know it is something we all go through you know alot of times something sparks a memory and then its a natural reaction..I dont think it is something you guys should dwell on..I think you are both not right...If the situation was harmless then just blow it off and if its in the heat of an argument then you should sit down and talk about it.. i know us women tend to get furious at the thought of being called someone elses name but look men dont have it all up there to begin with and need a little forgiving...just sit down with and hash things out and dont let things get worse by staying angry at each other cause then you will find yourselves resenting each other..hope all goes well GOOD LUCK
2006-08-09 01:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by willsgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your b/f wasn't very excited when you suggested that you name your child after your X. You may like the name, but how would you feel if your b/f asked you to name your daughter the same name that his X has. You have to put yourself in his shoes. Since you were talking about his X, it is no surprise that he called you that. My husband and I were talking about his X and he called me by her name. You just have to look over it.
2006-08-09 01:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock it off. You walked into this one, however innocently, by bringing up your x's name first. As a guy I'll tell ya, that's like stroking a cat backwards. All he did was retaliate. The first time the two of you are making out to the point that you're dizzy and he whispers his x's name in your ear, then get pissed.
2006-08-09 01:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he address you with his ex's name, or did he suggest it for a daughter in the future, like you did for a possible son?
If the former, yes, you could get angry, if it make you feel better.
If the latter, no, he only did what you had done, so it should be OK.
2006-08-09 01:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petty squabbles!!
He was probably annoyed that you'd choose a name your ex had... even if you like the name its a constant reminder of that person and most people wouldn't want that!
If you can't both be mature about this, you certainly shouldn't be discussing baby names!
2006-08-09 01:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by lindsay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this has gotten way out of hand over a silly thing. I understand where you are coming from but don't sweat the small stuff. Just let it go!
2006-08-09 01:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋