my husband has a male friend who recently found out his wife was cheating on him. he dragged her, by the hair, from the basement of their house and beat the crap out of her when they got upstairs. i think it is all wrong, the cheating, the abuse, but my husband thinks any woman who is unfaithful deserves a good flogging. am i naive in my thinking or is it wrong to abuse your spouse physically no matter what they have done?
2006-08-09 01:18:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Your husband is wrong. It's an antiquated notion that a husband had that right under circumstances involving infidelity, but in truth no one has a right to physically harm anyone at anytime except in self-defense. You probably won't have to concern yourself with those friends much longer ( as a marital unit anyway) because their mutual bad behavior and lack of respect for each other will likely fling their relationship into oblivion in short order. What should concern you is how much light needs to be shed on some of your husband's misconceptions, and how best to accomplish that before they begin to cause you both problems. Good luck in that regard.
2006-08-09 01:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes cheating is wrong. Physically abuseing someone is also wrong not to mention it is against the law. Chances are this isn't the first time he layed his hands on her. This is his way of trying to control her. He shoud of taken a good look at their relationship and talked with her. Maybe she has a reason for cheating. (Still wrong to cheat)
Myself if I were cheated on I would rather step back take a look at the relationship try to make it work if I thought it was fixable. If I couldn't get over the cheating or thought it would happen again then I would leave and go on with my life. I would not beat someone up over it. Two wrongs don't make a right. It only makes things worse.
If someone ever layed their hands on me there would be no working things out. I would send his butt to jail.
I bet that this guy not only beats her I bet there is some emotional abuse going on too.
2006-08-09 01:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely wrong to beat up a helpless woman. The husbands behave the way they behave because of possessiveness and the bitter feeling of being betrayed by the spouse. You must not be either supporting the conduct of the wife with another man other than her husband. Think, how you would have behaved, had you been the husband.
2006-08-09 01:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs do not make a right.. and based on that.. it seems pretty apparent why she was unfaithful in the first place..
Your husband is wrong to think that any kind of physicality to a woman or a child (what's the difference?) or a man, for that matter, is not only wrong, it's illegal
2006-08-09 01:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by thorfin39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all gets back to an idea that a woman is property.
If a dog does something bad, you "teach it a lesson", so, by extrapolating faulty logic, if your spouse does something bad, you "teach it a lesson".
Despite the great anger that he feels, beating the crap out of something does no positive good and generates more problems whatever it pretends to resolve.
Two wrongs don't make a right
2006-08-09 01:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some societies allow for "crime passionnel" where the person being cheated upon is essentially allowed to commit murder. (They often will not get away completely free, but their sentence may be reduced)
Many other societies do not have such laws and will not condone retributive acts in this manner.
I believe it is wrong to abuse your spouse physically unless it is part of a previously agreed upon set of actions.
2006-08-09 01:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you spouse is jealous and has each acceptable to be. She married you to be your suited chum and confidant. To many relationships were destroyed by ability of this situation. you should ask your self if this chum is a precedence or someone who you at present want to shrink loose. there's a very good line between love. two decades or no longer, its no longer honest to her. you want to take a seat and let your spouse recognize that she is your suited chum now, and also, confirm out who's more effective major. a chum of two decades, or a chum and spouse for a existence time. i believe that God brings us human beings into our existence for a reason. some for longer than others. Then their comes a time after we want to make painful selection's that isn't in straightforward words income us, yet others as well. in case you want your spouse, and its sounds like you do, then you definately want to renowned her desires and let bypass of this chum, and hit upon undemanding strategies to be suited acquaintances inclusive of your spouse. God bless you and robust success
2016-11-23 17:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both ARE very wrong... she shouldn't cheat.. if thats what she want to do then she should leave the relationship.. AND the same for him, if he done'st liek her cheating, then he should leave the relationship. beating her won't hep any. .it will just make her hate him, and make her want to cheat more, there cna be no healing ebtweenthem if he's hurting her.
2006-08-09 01:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by joyfulpriss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong...its called domestic violence and is illegal..He didn't have to go to the extent of hitting her..he could just leave and divorce her..but hit her??...common that's just wrong. :(
Your right your husband is not wrong either because its what he thinks but I agree with you better.. :)
2006-08-09 01:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy© 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is true. No beating of a "loved one" should ever be tolerated. Infidelity can be painful, but violence can kill.
2006-08-09 01:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋