My EX-fiancee who broke up with me on monday gave me an "indecent proposal" which I don't know I should except. He told me I should move with him to his hometown (a much smaller place than mine with 300.000 inhabitants, just 1hour away from where I now live; I agreed to move there, but just because of him when we were togetgher!) to be his roommate, JUST that, nothing else. Just to live with him with no obligations, just to be his friend.He realy IS my friend, but... just to be a friend is kinda hard after almost two years of relationship(year and almost 9 months). He also said we should see other people to see our other options and possybilities. So, I don't know what to do, how to react! I said I'm going to think about it. Is he playing with my emotions? Like, I will prove him that I love him if I say yes? I wanna say yes,but leaving my city and everything here withouth knowing what'll happen next is hard for me. I don't know what to think!
Help!!!
2006-08-09 01:10:16 · 4 answers · asked by celia3018 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it will be like that, each one of you may date with other people and come home to spend evenings or nights in your common flat, if it will be like that how would u feel / how would he feel?
I think between u and and him is far from being over ...
check up and see each detail , try tpo clarify before u go, then you go into troubles...
2006-08-09 01:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by freemind go 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't do it. This is a set up for disaster. That would be like me being roommates with my ex husband. You and your ex fiance split for a reason. Moving in with him in HIS hometown would remove you from what is familiar and have you more dependent upon him for companionship. His roots are there, so he will know a lot of people and have history there. You would be an outsider and you can't even call yourself his wife to be. Friendship after a relationship is tricky and sometimes it's very hard to maintain. Going from two people who thought that they would spend the rest of their lives together into just buddies is not realistic. Feelings don't just disappear because of a breakup. Ask yourself if you want to be subjected to the sounds of his making love to some other woman. Ask yourself if you could seriously pursue another love interests with him right under your nose. Ask yourself if you wouldn't end up back in bed with him. Both of you seem to be having problems calling it quits because otherwise he would not have made such an offer and you wouldn't be considering it. Stay put. Moving to his city will not be the answer to all your problems. Either work through this breakup and move on or try to work it out with him. Just don't lose yourself in the process. Ask yourself what your expectations of this situation are and then ask how those expectations can realistically occur.
2006-08-09 08:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for heaven's sake, Girlfriend! You DO KNOW the answer but you don't want to acknowledge it....the guy is playing you! He thinks he can have his cake and eat it too...and he probably can. How can you even think this would work out? NO WAY! All you are doing is prolonging your ability to heal....like scratching a scab and keeping it raw and infected. Leave the guy alone. No friendship, no living together, no visiting, no talking, no nothing....move on. Close this chapter in your life and start writing/living the next one. You will be happy that you did.
2006-08-09 09:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to use you while keeping his options open. Say yes only if you want to be the dishrag.
2006-08-09 08:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋