i cook, i clean, i take care of the kids, i go to school, i give him sex when he wants it. he still treats me like another one of his kids. here's a $1 honey, don't spend it all in one place!
2006-08-09 01:01:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get rid of the bum and find a new one that is not a pig.
2006-08-09 01:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell your husband that you are exhausted and next time he wants "sex", tell him "Honey, when you're done cooking, cleaning, the laundry, the grocery shopping, giving the kids a bath, helping them with their homework, making dinner, then if you still have the energy, then we'll have sex" Don't be afraid to stand up to your spouse, even if it's not in your nature. If he really does his chores, he probably won't have the stamina to have sex anyway. And if he refuses and he still wants to do the hanky panky with you, ask him "Did you do the laundry yet?" and if he didn't, then NO SEX!
Another technique is that you don't do anything at all. Just sit around and watch tv and if your husband argues with you because the chores aren't done or why dinner isn't on the table, then tell your husband "I'm tired. I deserve a break. Do you mind cooking dinner tonight? There's also a pile of laundry can you fold the clothes too? Thanks!" And then lay down on the couch and go to sleep." If your husband argues with you some more then you tell him "I can't rest if you're yelling at me" Then leave the room! Do not argue with him, go to another room,lock the door, and don't come out until he calms down or when he apologizes.
Try my advice and see if you can turn your male chauvinist of a pig husband's life around.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-08-09 01:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think a spouse should treat their significant other any way other than the way they would like to be treated in the first place, so that stuff about being overlooked, as far as what you do and being taken for granted, that should be stopped.
I think that if you calmly, no matter what calmly, discuss why the way he treats you is upsetting and what sort of expectations you have from him, you've done pretty much all that you can.
I understand that he may work all day and come home tired and such, but he's a functioning member of a family, and should treat his family with the same amount of respect that he feels he deserves, and you should kindly remind him of that, as it seems he's forgotten the Golden Rule.
2006-08-09 01:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see....Which one of those things that you do mean the most to him? Is it the cooking? Don't cook for him; just you and the kids. Tell him you were $1.00 short of making dinner for him. Is it sex? Make his bed in another room cause you a $1.00 short of having time for him. A man who is selfish with his money will be selfish with his affection. Hit him in the face with a 2 x 4 to ge his attention (by depriving what he wants/loves the most) and maybe he'll come around. However, if he loves that $1.00 more than anything, you're stuck with a cheap louse. Good Luck.
2006-08-09 01:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and fine something you are good at and work to earn some money. A home job, even taking care of other kids or a job working at a day care then take you small one with you. Also ck into a home jobs. . Then you can make your own hours etc. Tell him that you decided you want to work and earn some money to have when needed.. Go ahead and show him you mean it ,get started. When someone is in controll it makes it harder, Good luck Pem
2006-08-09 01:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no. If he is not the same person you married then you screwed up a long time ago. Change yourself, first try talking then if all else fails, cut him off and quit being his mother. Take care of your kids and yourself, leave his laundry and dirty dishes for him to take care of. If he says anything tell him you want a raise until then your on strike. Sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns so to speak. You are the only one who can change your unhappiness.
2006-08-09 01:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by starchild_kisschild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't know this about him when you married him? If you did, why did you marry? You don't ever go into a relationship with plans to change someone...you dig and accept them as they are and for who they are, or ya move on...
You can talk to him about it, but chances are if he's use to you behaving as if you are inferior to him, and not an equal partner, it's going to be a tough change. Why is it just now bothering you? This is something that should've been addressed early on in your relationship.
Communicate...make it clear you are not satisfied and some things need to change...try counseling if that seems needed and an unbiased 3rd party might be able to help...
Good luck...
2006-08-09 01:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if his ways are really evil, piggish.. there's slim chance he'll be changing any time soon.. then again you 're the woman in this relationship, you're supposed to know better :-)
2006-08-09 01:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Relationship Rescue by Dr. Phil. He sounds like quite a prince. If you don't establish your boundaries...you will continue to be trampled on.
2006-08-09 01:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by windy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him back the dollar and tell him here you go honey, use it to find yourself another place.
2006-08-09 01:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like thats just the way he is.... Was he brought up this way? They usually are .... I was married to one like that but he became abusive so I divorced him after 12 years.... but I found in counsling that, that is pretty common out there and you can't change them, you can only change you and the situation.... sorry hun, either get used to it, or get out of it.......
2006-08-09 01:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋